Did you ever...

almost have an abortion and decide against it? keep the baby and find yourself happy?

I did and it took awhile for me to get to the happy spot. I absolutely hated her for the first year of her life because I regretted not aborting her when I had the chance. It has certainly changed since then and I love her to death.

I can't say I *almost* had an abortion, but I was certainly leaning toward it in the first few weeks of my pregnancy.
My SO and I had been successfully TNTC for 5 years when I fell pregnant. I wasn't in the best place in my life and didn't think I was financially ready for a child. I also wanted to have a career before starting a family. I'd say I was 75% wanting to terminate, and 25% wanting to keep the baby. My SO talked me out of it.
Now when I think back, I cannot imagine my world without my LO in it. Our situation is not ideal and we struggle, but I can say I am happier than I have ever been.
But this is just what happened to me. Every situation is different. And, truly, whatever decision is made, just know that everything will work out for the best in the end, because it always does. Regardless of your choice, you really just have to decide to be happy eventually. I hope that makes sense.

Yes..

My 1st pregnancy was Dean, I was 20, and almost done with my AA, I was dancing, partying, me and his dad were both slanging, it was just all bad..
He didn't want baby at all, and I wasnt sure I wanted to give up my life either, I loved david more than anything and always did whatever to make him happy, I didn't want to lose him, I kept agreeing to an abortion, I went to clinic with my friend, sat in room reading brochure and papers, I remember sitting there looking at, the staff and they seemed so cold, like it wasnt a big deal I was in there, about to do something that was going to change my life forever...
I got up and walked out... I just couldn't do it, that lil pregnancy sign in the test window, didn't deserve to not have a chance to live, he didn't ask to be made... If his dad didn't want him, that was fine.
I lost the only man I had ever loved in my life at that time,
when I decided to keep him...
For 1st time ever, I was *ok* that david was gone, because I had a part of him in Dean,

<blockquote><b>Quoting SAFFY™:</b>" I did and it took awhile for me to get to the happy spot. I absolutely hated her for the first year of ... [snip!] ... life because I regretted not aborting her when I had the chance. It has certainly changed since then and I love her to death."</blockquote>




I'm opposite, the 1 pregnancy I wanted even before I conceived was Jade, I had no doubt, no issues, I was happy and excited, after I had her I felt/feel like I'm in a rut, I'm a miserable person, and I really blamed her, Now I feel stuck, and if it wasn't for Jade, I would have never had to get iud and get preg with Maks, having to make the same decision I had to face when I got pregnant with Dean...

I also had ppp,.and I blamed her for that too   I've gotten alot better since we put her in a learning academy, I miss her when shes gone and shes alot happier having her own thing to do...  

I pray that nobody goes through an abortion or something like that cause i personally feel that we should all that. Ya if its voluntary then thats ok because there are big problems in life.

Quoting mary bell:" I pray that nobody goes through an abortion or something like that cause i personally feel that we should all that. Ya if its voluntary then thats ok because there are big problems in life. "

Im sorry but I do not understand anythign that you said.. Can you clarify for me what you mean in your comment?

Quoting mary bell:" I pray that nobody goes through an abortion or something like that cause i personally feel that we should all that. Ya if its voluntary then thats ok because there are big problems in life. "

what?

I almost had another abortion but decided against it for many reasons and for a while I was happy while I was pregnant but then I regretted not doing the abortion, because adoption was worse than abortion.

Good luck with whatever you decide <3 Its not an easy choice.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" I almost had another abortion but decided against it for many reasons and for a while I was happy while ... [snip!] ... the abortion, because adoption was worse than abortion. Good luck with whatever you decide <3 Its not an easy choice. "</blockquote>



Ur a solider, I really wish I could be a surrogate... or something along those lines, its not even right how fertile I am... I have a depo and mirena baby...
I'm just so selfish, and would not know my boundries...

Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" I almost had another abortion but ... [snip!] ... its not even right how fertile I am... I have a depo and mirena baby... I'm just so selfish, and would not know my boundries..."

Thanks. I am selfish in a way because Id rather have the abortion than to feel what I feel now. [and to be fat again...] lol. But of course there isnt a time machine. ahaha.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" Thanks. I am selfish in a way because Id rather have the abortion than to feel what I feel now. [and to be fat again...] lol. But of course there isnt a time machine. ahaha. "</blockquote>




If I *HAD* to choose abort or adopt out... I would prob abort... I thought about donating eggs, but then I would want them to like send me pixs and stuff  

This baby.

I still think I probably should have aborted. I hate being tied to her dad and I'm not looking forward to being a broke single mom again.

But I'm content with it. I will manage and I am looking forward to the positive parts of another baby.