re: Home birth

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" Ok. Well it's dangerous. Many of the stories ended with some version if @if my kid were born in a hospital, ... [snip!] ... If so, I've accomplished something. That's worth having some think I'm an idiot. Good night and good luck with your gambling."

Honestly birth is dangerous period so i guess in that logic no one should give birth or have kids because it can possible kill them or the child.

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" How does something siting midwives=unassisted ... [snip!] ... The other side ought to be exposed too. Only showing one side of something makes it questionable. Why hide the darker truth?"

You never only find good stuff when you look it up. Clearly you don't know how to use the internet either. Your logic is ignorant. You don't always find good stuff about VBACs when you look them up either. When I typed in home birth guess what I found more negative to it than positive. I had to dig to find good strong research.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:</b>" Ok. Well it's dangerous. Many of the stories ended with some version if @if my kid were born in a hospital, ... [snip!] ... If so, I've accomplished something. That's worth having some think I'm an idiot. Good night and good luck with your gambling."</blockquote>

I'm glad you posted this. People always post about how home births and natural births are the way to go and csection are the devil. I have had it set in my mind that if I couldn't do those things I'm a failure. And I am having extreme difficulty dealing with my latest birth. I'm borderlining ppd right now because of it. I can't accept that I had to be hospitalized. I can't accept that I needed a csection. It goes against eveything I believe. I'm obviously happy my baby is alive. But it's hard to accept the methods I had to take. I cry everyday about it. It's nice to see that it's not always what everyone makes it out to be and that you shouldn't feel ashamed to have medical intervention. I don't even like posting about havig a csection on here on fear of being judged. I feel self conscious about it. I know I shouldn't but I do. And I'm almost positive it's because of the pressure I feel from advocates of natural and Hb methods. I agree and desire the same thing and I am disappointed that it couldn't happen for me. It's kind of hard to explain how I feel.

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" And hospitals come at increased risk of MERSA, RSV, FLU, want me to keep going? Hospitals are for sick ... [snip!] ... with your ignorant I found one thing that says "it is dangerous" but yet I don't think hospital births are dangerous. "</blockquote>




I did find one thing. One thing that contains SEVERAL true stories.
That one thing is enough.

Again, only one side is shown of this practice.
That's misleading.
If someone is called an idiot for trying to shine light on the other, hidden side of something, that's extremism

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" And hospitals come at increased risk of MERSA, ... [snip!] ... misleading. If someone is called an idiot for trying to shine light on the other, hidden side of something, that's extremism"

its not hidden. All you have to do is type in "Homebirth stories" and it comes up. OMFG that is so smurfing hard to do.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:</b>" Ok. Well it's dangerous. Many of the ... [snip!] ... agree and desire the same thing and I am disappointed that it couldn't happen for me. It's kind of hard to explain how I feel."

c-sections aren't something to be ashamed of   Why would you feel ashamed my dear? Every pregnancy and delivery is different, some need more "interventions" or help than others. others are text book deliveries.

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" c-sections aren't something to be ashamed of   Why would you feel ashamed my dear? Every pregnancy and ... [snip!] ... Every pregnancy and delivery is different, some need more "interventions" or help than others. others are text book deliveries."</blockquote>

I just always wanted a Hb and always wanted a natural birth. I was so exited when i got preg to have my dream birth. I had a wonderful preg. I felt fantastic. I could have went over due and been happy. I just feel jipped and disappointed. I feel like a failure. I know it's not true as I had no control over the circumstances. But I just am having a hard time coping with it all.

I think birthing centers near hospitals are fine, and quality midwives, but a lot of the midwives in those stories I read kept telling the woman everything is fine when she kept telling them its not, turned out they were wrong and the babies paid the price. It was a common theme. Midwives telling them don't go to the hospital when they knew they should. That was instincts as well, but those particular instincts didn't line up with the midwives personal beliefs.

Can you deny these stories?
You can't.

It is dangerous to give birth period, yes.. But there are ways to make it safer, and we live in a place where we have that option available, thank god. ( I'm assuming everyone here lives in a developed country)

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" c-sections aren't something to be ashamed ... [snip!] ... failure. I know it's not true as I had no control over the circumstances. But I just am having a hard time coping with it all."

/hugs!!! I felt that way after Cylus, now looking back (almost 4 years later) I'm just happy we were both okay.

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" I think birthing centers near hospitals are fine, and quality midwives, but a lot of the midwives in ... [snip!] ... we live in a place where we have that option available, thank god. ( I'm assuming everyone here lives in a developed country)"

You can go to the hospital against the midwives wishes. If you don't have the power to say smurf it I'm going then you shouldn't be doing a home birth anyways.

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" You can go to the hospital against the midwives wishes. If you don't have the power to say smurf it I'm going then you shouldn't be doing a home birth anyways. "</blockquote>



 

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" /hugs!!! I felt that way after Cylus, now looking back (almost 4 years later) I'm just happy we were both okay. "</blockquote>

Yeah I am grateful to both be safe. But it's still a hard pill for me to swallow. I hope this pain goes away soon. Maybe once my body is helped my mind will be able to heal. It's just like everyday I have a reminder of the horrible experience I have had to endure the last couple of months. I'm not recovering like I did with my vaginal birth. I'm not happy like I was after that birth. I'm just sad about it all. Idk if you can have PTSD from something like that or not   But I may have to look into it. I feel so traumatized. if I try to remember anything from my hospital stay I cry and get really depressed.

<blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" You can go to the hospital against the midwives wishes. If you don't have the power to say smurf it I'm going then you shouldn't be doing a home birth anyways. "</blockquote>




When you're in pain and under pressure of these "professionals" that you trust telling you it's fine? The midwives were to blame, not the poor woman who lost their kids. They were training and experimenting on these moms pretending they already knew what to do.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" /hugs!!! I felt that way after Cylus, now ... [snip!] ... to look into it. I feel so traumatized. if I try to remember anything from my hospital stay I cry and get really depressed."

You most definitely can have PTSD from something like that. I wish I could come give you a hug! You are not a failure though!

Quoting Mandy Schlatterer:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:</b>" You can go to the hospital against the midwives ... [snip!] ... the poor woman who lost their kids. They were training and experimenting on these moms pretending they already knew what to do."

When you are in pain and go with your instincts it doesn't matter. When I was in 8th grade I wanted to put a gun to my head because I felt like something was majorly wrong (maybe the feeling of my spine being ripped out of my back/not being able to breathe or eat anyting) and guess what I went to the hospital everytime until they kept telling me I was making it up. I was ready to put a bullet through my head. I mean I make the calls with my births nobody else. When you are in pain at the hospital you can make the call to get an epi or not right? So why would it be different at home?