What would you do? (Kind of long...)

I'm going to try to keep it as short as I can without rambling on, but to fully understand the situation I will need to explain a few past experiences.

When I met my husband and we began dating, his brother, Justin, was living in Jesse's house with his fiancé, Aleshia. When my husband, Jesse, was not around, Aleshia would constantly talk to me about "what kind of girl Jesse needed to be with"....implying that she did not want me with him, but wanted him to be with one of her friends. So things have always been off to a rocky start with Aleshia and I, which is hard because she's family. I don't think she ever thought Jesse and I would get married, and since we have been married she's tried to pull the "buddy buddy" card with me.

Fast forward a little bit and they had their baby, Keeley, in June. Jesse and I found out we were expecting in July. As soon as we had mentioned to the family we were expecting a baby, she automatically chimed in with a comment saying that they could now get busy having another baby so they could have the first boy in the family. I think it's awful to look at having a child as a competition...it's wrong. What difference does it make as long as the baby is HEALTHY!!

She is also a professional at giving advice on what I have to do and what I cannot do with my child...I will be the one to decide that, as every parent has their own opinions about different things, but I'm too nice to tell her that I will ask for her advice IF I need it.

Last month we found out that she is expecting another baby already. She wouldn't come up and take family pictures for Christmas so she could have a big surprise for everyone else...

So now, my baby shower is the 23rd and I was pretty much obligated to invite her...They give about 2 1/2 hours away so there was a chance she wouldn't be coming, but she RSVP'd.

Now I am concerned about how this is all going to pan out because I can see her trying to make MY baby shower all about her and her pregnancy...I will probably flip a b**** if she does...I am THAT fed up.

My question is, what would you do?

I would send her a facebook message with a lot of "I statements"

Say I'm really looking forward to you coming for the baby shower, and congrats on your pregnancy, however, I feel like this is mine and SO's special day, so I hope that you wont take the specialness away."

Sort of thing....

I'm hoping it is wonderful for you!!