BABY FEVER

I am 20, I had my first and only child at 17 and chose adoption for her best interest. I have had baby fever for two years. I have a steady job with a very good income, I am single. I know its a terrible idea to have a child right now, thats why i have chosen to not bring another into this world. I think my baby fever may be triggered by seeing all my friends and relatives start their families, while i already had the baby experience i think it helps me to realize its not the right time. Friends/family tell me that I have such a motherly nature. I took care of my baby brother since the day he was born (i played the mom role). I do have a hard time with the screaming night after night, thats another thing stopping me because I know Id be doing it all on my own. This is sort of a vent for me, im asking you to help cure my baby fever without having a baby! Any tips on how to just stop and calm myself down when i get the overwhelming feeling of wanting a child? Sorry if i sound crazy lol but i feel like im really about to be. 

You should wait until your older, with a husband, house, job etc. Those things make it more enjoyable.

It really doesn't go away, but doing the responsible thing and waiting until you're ready will mean a MUCH happier pregnancy and a much happier mama!

Stick it out. Play with your friends and family's babies, though it will not cure your baby fever.

Quoting Hairspray:" You should wait until your older, with a husband, house, job etc. Those things make it more enjoyable."

This!!!!


I know what it feels like. Im a BM too and I am so jealous of girls that are having babies because I want to have another child. lol. I have a soo nto be 6 year old son. And my youngest that I placed just turned 14 months old. And I want another one. And Im single. Just wait. Have fun right now. Do the things that you wont be able to when you are pregnant or a mom.

Ive never partied or had tons of crazy nights. I really do have a boring life lol but when I am out with friends I am thankful I do not have other things to take care of. I am holding off more on the baby's best interest. I dont think its fair to bring a child into the world intentionally knowing that its not the right time. I feel better knowing im not the only one though lol

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" This!!!! I know what it feels like. Im a BM too and I am so jealous of girls that are having babies ... [snip!] ... one. And Im single. Just wait. Have fun right now. Do the things that you wont be able to when you are pregnant or a mom. "

 

Including just enjoying being alone, silence... things like that. That doesn't have to be partying if that's not what you're into.

Go out with friends, stay out late, go places just for the heck of it. Go to concerts, have fun!

Quoting XoPiNKoX:" Ive never partied or had tons of crazy nights. I really do have a boring life lol but when I am out with ... [snip!] ... a child into the world intentionally knowing that its not the right time. I feel better knowing im not the only one though lol"

That is good!  Im glad. I do hope that you find someone and settle down when the time is right.

Quoting The Doctor:"   Including just enjoying being alone, silence... things like that. That doesn't have to be partying ... [snip!] ... that's not what you're into. Go out with friends, stay out late, go places just for the heck of it. Go to concerts, have fun!"

I gotta agree... lol. My son is throwing a fit and crying right now and all I want to be is somewhere else in peaceandquiet! lol. I was 19 when I had him.lol.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I gotta agree... lol. My son is throwing a fit and crying right now and all I want to be is somewhere else in peaceandquiet! lol. I was 19 when I had him.lol. "

Haha, amen to that. My daughter has a fever of 103 and still refuses to sit still and relax.  

Quoting The Doctor:" Haha, amen to that. My daughter has a fever of 103 and still refuses to sit still and relax.  "

I have a feeling my son is sick. He came home from school saying that he didnt feel good, then went off about not being able to watch tv..   kids man.  

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" I have a feeling my son is sick. He came home from school saying that he didnt feel good, then went off about not being able to watch tv..   kids man.  "

Haha! You got that right.

I mean, I feel bad that they're sick and all... but, dayum. C'mon. You can't go to preschool when you're sick AND you can't relax enough to get better. Uggggghhhh. Frustration. haha  

Quoting XoPiNKoX:" Ive never partied or had tons of crazy nights. I really do have a boring life lol but when I am out with ... [snip!] ... a child into the world intentionally knowing that its not the right time. I feel better knowing im not the only one though lol"

I'm the same way I'm 19. I had a lot of miscarriages though no adoption experience, and was told I couldn't have children. I had baby fever before I was told that after it just got worse but there was nothing I could do... So I thought. But having a house and a steady income and someone you're going to marry is what makes it enjoyable. I'm almost 20, but my SO is 26 and he has all those things. And I was lucky enough to find and fall in love with him. And somehow I guess since I gave up I got pregnant and carried to well almost past due I was gonna say term lol... We'll get married soon. I want to make sure my credits a bit better first so I don't ruin his etc., But waiting until your older is the responsible thing. I'm sorry you're dealing with this. And I think it's amazing you were able to do such a good thing for the first baby. Not many people realize how hard it'd be. etc., I don't even yet because this will be my first. SO's second thank goodness. Good luck. There's really nothing you can do. SO's ex has it bad, she just keeps buying small pets   now she has a ridiculous number of pets and still wants another baby.

Quoting The Doctor:" Haha! You got that right. I mean, I feel bad that they're sick and all... but, dayum. C'mon. You can't ... [snip!] ... C'mon. You can't go to preschool when you're sick AND you can't relax enough to get better. Uggggghhhh. Frustration. haha  "

bahahahaha.... I know. right! I feel your pain!!!

Im sorry to hear that, congrats to the both of you though! So funny you mentioned pets, I tried that. And it did not work lol but thank you, it frustrates me when people were telling me to keep her in my custody. I was just thankful it was me having my daughter instead of them being responsible for her.

Quoting XoPiNKoX:" Im sorry to hear that, congrats to the both of you though! So funny you mentioned pets, I tried that. ... [snip!] ... me to keep her in my custody. I was just thankful it was me having my daughter instead of them being responsible for her."

Yeah the pets thing doesn't. She's got three cats, two fish, a turtle, a rat, two sugar glider. Like 4-5 lizards/dragons and I think there's something else but I'm forgetting. Lol their son when he's there sleeps behind a lizards cage... That's how bad that's gotten. So careful on the pets thing it doesn't always work. Just pick up a hobby breathe and focus more on bettering yourself and moving forward so you can have a good life for that baby   It'll give you something to focus on that includes thinking about the baby/future you will have.