I want to work

My dad made me quit my job. Before having my son I paid my own car insurance, phone bill, and used my extra money however I wanted. Me getting pregnant made him feel like he had no control as a parent, and now that I'm not working he pretty much controls everything. My mentor offered me a job doing clerical work for her, and I want to, but Im sure my dad is going to flip smurf.

I don't understand how your dad can make you quit a job.

He doesn't like you making money? I don't get it. Dies he watch your kid while you work?

Your life. Your decisions. Do what will make you happy!

Quoting .Colleen.:" I don't understand how your dad can make you quit a job."

He convinced me it would be the better option so that all I had to focus on was school and the baby. And now I regret it.

Quoting Team J-Cruz©:" He convinced me it would be the better option so that all I had to focus on was school and the baby. And now I regret it."

Ok, so he didn't "make you"
merely made the suggestion.

Good luck telling him about the new job.

It sounds like hes trying to keep you dependent on him. He sees you doing everything for yourself, and hes not ready to see you as an adult. My dad was the same way. He would buy me nice things like a phone, a camaro, and a motorcycle, but he would hold them over me, and wouldnt let me know about insurance or my minute limit on my phone. He had to have some control over me to still feel like the parent, the adult.

Quoting * MRS KING *:" It sounds like hes trying to keep you dependent on him. He sees you doing everything for yourself, and ... [snip!] ... about insurance or my minute limit on my phone. He had to have some control over me to still feel like the parent, the adult. "

OMG this is my situation exactly. I havent accepted the position yet, I told her I would let her know by the end of the week. Im almost 100% sure Im going to do it though

<blockquote><b>Quoting * MRS KING *:</b>" It sounds like hes trying to keep you dependent on him. He sees you doing everything for yourself, and ... [snip!] ... about insurance or my minute limit on my phone. He had to have some control over me to still feel like the parent, the adult. "</blockquote>




I wish I had a dad like that.

Quoting Team J-Cruz©:" OMG this is my situation exactly. I havent accepted the position yet, I told her I would let her know by the end of the week. Im almost 100% sure Im going to do it though"

Offer to give him some money. My dad would talk big, and say i had to pay rent and bills, but when i actually got a job, he didnt want me messing with HIS bills and HIS business. So i got to keep my money and have a little freedom . I didnt start working until seventeen, he thought i should only focus on school. Growing up, i hated asking for things, cuz i hated that he had the power to say no to me. He wouldnt even tell me where we were going to eat, or what we were having for dinner. His favorite motto was nonya. But i did get materially spoiled.

Quoting A is Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting * MRS KING *:</b>" It sounds like hes trying to keep you dependent ... [snip!] ... to have some control over me to still feel like the parent, the adult. "</blockquote> I wish I had a dad like that."

Theres always more to the story. Just because they spend a lot of money on you doesnt mean theyre all rainbows and ponies.

<blockquote><b>Quoting A is Me:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting * MRS KING *:</b>" It sounds like hes trying to keep you dependent ... [snip!] ... to have some control over me to still feel like the parent, the adult. "</blockquote> I wish I had a dad like that."</blockquote>



No, you don't.

Mine was like that. He took away my car because he didn't approve of me dating a black guy. It was a graduation present, I paid the car payment, the insurance, the gas, and all repairs...but he kept it in his name so he could use it to control my life. I was 19 years old, with a job, my own apartment, a child, and going to school, but I had a curfew, had to report to him on my classes, and had to ask for permission to take the car on trips longer than 15 miles.

Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A is Me:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting * MRS KING ... [snip!] ... had a curfew, had to report to him on my classes, and had to ask for permission to take the car on trips longer than 15 miles."

God, how can there be so many of them that act just the same, with identical mentalities? Its like theyre in a controlling daddy club.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting A is Me:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting * MRS KING ... [snip!] ... had a curfew, had to report to him on my classes, and had to ask for permission to take the car on trips longer than 15 miles."</blockquote>




I can kind of understand why he took your car for that.

I know having a dad spoil you doesn't mean you have a good relationship, either. But my dad doesn't even talk to me or buy me birthday or Christmas gifts, he leaves that up to my mom. Growing up, his only role to me was disciplinarian. So that's why I would want a dad like that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting A is Me:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... he leaves that up to my mom. Growing up, his only role to me was disciplinarian. So that's why I would want a dad like that."</blockquote>



Uhm. No. he had no right to take MY car because of the color of my befriend's skin.