Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Since you just had her, I'm going to say ... [snip!] ... to wear maternity pants cause regular pants hurt my incision. And then on top of it Sam not wanting to touch me doesn't help."
Remember that everything is going to bother you like 100x more now than it would any other time in your life because of the rapid shift in hormones. Your body just went through surgery - give it time! The wound looks ugly now but soon you won't even notice it, or care. Sam is still attracted to you but he's not going to show it now because he figures with all the stress, sex and feeling sexy are the LAST things on your mind. If he is like any other decent husband[which from what you post he seems like a great guy] he would feel like a dick making any type of comment about your body, good or bad.
All guys always bond with their first better in the beginning. DH was the same way with our first. He took over caring for him when I was in the hospital with PPP. Now with our second he is EBF and really attached to me so DH kind of feels like the 3rd wheel around us. Maybe yours feels the same?
Having a preemie is not easy. They are smaller and more fragile, and you feel like you're a new mother all over again because she's so much different than your first. Time will fix this too. She'll gain weight and grow and thrive. You're breastfeeding which is the absolute best thing you can do at this time.
Hang in there, mama. Your family went through a traumatic event. Even though things are going good now, it's going to take awhile to recover physically and mentally.