What would you have done?

Long story short. I went to pick up my daughter from her grandma's house an hour away from where I live. Normally when I get there, I use the rest room, and then we chat for a while. This time, the second I pulled up, Nana, her husband and DD's dad come racing out of the house. Mind you, he REFUSES to talk to me. He NEVER sees his daughter, and I hadn't seen him and rarely heard from him in the past 6 months. He acted like a total jackass. He wouldn't even hand me my daughter... he refused. So I asked if I could use the rest room. Everyone got silent and his mom said yes. So I went in. DOUCHE FACE said "here we go..." SO I knew his GF was in there. She stood and faced the wall when I walked by. I came out of the restroom and walked straight to her. His dad tried to get in my way but I walked around him. I said "Hi. I'm Erin." and shook her hand. She said "Jennifer" all half assed. I said nice to meet you, and she walked away. So I went back to my car and continued to talk with Nana and DD's Uncle, whom I haven't seen in about 5 years. DOUCH SmUrf quickly walks, no runs, away and doens't look or say a damn thing. I feel VERY betrayed to by his mother. I have told her REPEATIDLY that IF that girl is around her, I have a right to know as a mother. She disrespected me and has made her father afraid to even communicate about his own child.... given he is a peice of smurf for choosing to act that way. She was so unbelievabley childish. I find it appalling that with SIX adults in the room, I am the ONLY one who could act like an adult.

I am livid. I have NEVER wanted to keep anyone away from DD. It is the very last thing I want. But my trust is broken. This girl is disrespectful and obviously has some sort of childish issue against me and the well-being of my child. I also asked his mother to tell me when Douche smurf saw her so I could eventually gain trust with him being around her. She refused. I'm not mad about either of them being around DD. I am disgusted and afraid with teh audacitiy for their childish behaviors. If they act this way to me...how do they act to my child. How can I trust them with the most important thing on this planet when they can't respect my simple and well justified wishes...

What would you have done?

I probably would have done just what you did- tried to be the adult.
But given what she did, I don't think I'd be bringing my daughter over there anymore, especially while I wasn't around, because, like you said, if she can't respect your simple wishes, how can you trust her with your precious child?
At least until they can prove they are more trustworthy, and until they apologize.

Quoting VeggieBurglar:" I probably would have done just what you did- tried to be the adult. But given what she did, I don't ... [snip!] ... can you trust her with your precious child? At least until they can prove they are more trustworthy, and until they apologize."

Exactly...my mind is made up. I feel so horrible because her Nana loves her so much.... And I know no matter WHAT I do, if it isn't exactly what they want, they will make my life hell. So I knew I should have finished the custody order, but I didn't because he wasn't around at all. Now I have to, and I am very afraid of the turmoil up ahead.

Quoting Is that still my name?:" Long story short. I went to pick up my daughter from her grandma's house an hour away from where I live. ... [snip!] ... most important thing on this planet when they can't respect my simple and well justified wishes... What would you have done?"

I don't remember your custody situation offhand; does he have visitation?

Quoting Little Vine:" I don't remember your custody situation offhand; does he have visitation?"

Well... he never ever sees her. I filed all the paper work and I didn't have an address to serve him at so I couldn't file the last paper that would actually send it to a judge. Also, if the judge DOESN'T grant me full custody, then he will give douche a particular schedule that I KNOW he won't abide by... and I don't want him talking my daughter out of obligation and treating her smurffy... he's already done enough damage to her life.

So I've been on the fence. But now I don't want any of his family to have anything to do with her... so I am just going to file... wish me luck... I have so much anxiety over all of this... it was so much easier to just ignore it.