re: What would you do?

Quoting Mrs. Reynolds:" That is just proof of guilt honestly. He knows he is doing something he shouldn't and is hiding that by deleting them all"

That's what I thought. I just don't want to believe it you know? So I just think "Well he says he's not and things have been better" so I shrug it off.

<blockquote><b>Quoting BG Secrets:</b>" I think this is it. No ones told me that. I think I am in love with who he's capable of being. Thank you. I have a lot to think about now."</blockquote>




Hang in there. Let me know if you ever need to chat.

Quoting BG Secrets:" I think this is it. No ones told me that. I think I am in love with who he's capable of being. Thank you. I have a lot to think about now."

Or maybe you're in love with the person you want him to be....

It's awful , I've been there....but the hurt DOES go away, and the sooner you cut ties , the better. Imagine you're with him 20 years from now, and you find out he's STILL doing the same thing....it'll be that much harder to go.

Please leave. It will never get better. You know when you're training a dog to go potty outside? You can't have the dog smurf on the floor and then give him a treat. That's basically what you're doing. He's smurffing all over you and you are rewarding him by still letting him have you and his family.
Nothing will change. I know what it is like being stuck in a relationship like that. You want him to be better, and you want to believe he is sorry and he will change but that kind of person is a manipulator. You need to get yourself away from him.

Quoting Katie[Cheeks Momma]:" Or maybe you're in love with the person you want him to be.... It's awful , I've been there....but the ... [snip!] ... you're with him 20 years from now, and you find out he's STILL doing the same thing....it'll be that much harder to go. "

I do think about that. I think how much more of my life am I gonna waste with this man? But I stay, because my heart and mind are weak. Almost like I'm waiting for it to get better. I know now after reading everyone's response, I have a lot to think about, serious thinking. It's just gonna take time for me to muster up the courage I know it is.

I'm gonna stop posting now from this account. But I will continue to read. I thank you ladies. I sit here crying because it hurts but I also cry because I finally let it out. I finally got to tell someone. I finally got advice. After going thru this for almost 2 years. Someone took the time to read it and give advice. I thank you so much!

Quoting BG Secrets:" I'm gonna stop posting now from this account. But I will continue to read. I thank you ladies. I sit ... [snip!] ... got advice. After going thru this for almost 2 years. Someone took the time to read it and give advice. I thank you so much! "

If you need someone to talk to about everything you can PM me. I've been through this exact thing and I know it isn't an easy thing to go through. I'd love to lend an ear and help if I can.

Quoting BG Secrets:" I'm gonna stop posting now from this account. But I will continue to read. I thank you ladies. I sit ... [snip!] ... got advice. After going thru this for almost 2 years. Someone took the time to read it and give advice. I thank you so much! "

Same here, I've been there....my heart was "weak" also   It's like, I know what I need to do, but my heart tells me otherwise. I've gotten over that (pretty much) over the years. Some people won't ever change, even though that doesn't make leaving any easier, you'll eventually learn to be at piece with yourself and your decisions. You'll learn that it has nothing to do with you, or how wonderful of a woman you are....it's his problem, and you don't deserve to suffer for it. He's going to be the one that winds up old and alone one day, don't go down that road with him.

You'll find someone you love just as much someday, probably even more, and he'll treat you the way you deserve to be treated. It's hard to see that now, but trust me I'VE BEEN THERE , and I'm living proof of it.

Please feel free to send me a PM anytime, I have a 5 month old, so I'm around quite often. It can really help to have someone who knows where you're coming from and that you can relate to .

Take care and best wishes.

Remember - you're better than this, just keep telling yourself that...even if you don't always believe it. Eventually, it will sink in  

Quoting BG Secrets:" My SO and I have been together for almost 2 years. March 3rd will be 2 years exactly. I met him thru ... [snip!] ... on what I should or should have done? There has been another girl, but this was already long I decided to leave that one out."

I've been in your situation before, I know how it is to think you love someone so much that you keep allowing things you never would have allowed before until you completely lose yourself and self respect. The reason why I said "to think you love someone" is because you don't love him, this is who he is...you love who you want him to be, he acted like a good guy and you fell for it. It happens to everyone, unfortunately you're having a baby with this duesch BUT you will have the best part of him by far. You need to get as far away from him as you can so you can get over him, trust me it's the best thing you could do for you and your baby. I'm sure he'll use the baby as an excuse to get to you but stay strong and keep your head up. Don't settle for less than you deserve. I did for so many years and now I have an amazing man who still seems too good to be true but good guys really are out there! You will find the happiness you deserve, but you have to have to raise your standards to prevent falling for losers like this one. You're going to be just fine, good luck mama!