Restraining Order/No Contact Order

Well here is some background before I get to my problem.
I was married from 2011-2012 for about a year but we were only together about 50% of that time. I got a restraining order he violated it and went to jail for a few days. He then left me alone but begged me to take it off so I did. He left me alone for a while but then began to bug me again. Our divorce was finalized in October 2012 after about 6 months of waiting and I was again granted a no contact order for a year so it will expire in October of this year. He started trying to contact me I copied proof on my phone a screen shot of a facebook friend request, he favorited two of my tweets on twitter which I also screen shot. I never reported it to authorities (this all happened lets say november - december of 2012) because I knew he would get a felony and thousands of dollars of fines for violating another restraining order so I figured as long as it wasn't texts or phone calls I would ignore it. Well I know he is still stalking my twitter even though I have him blocked because we have 1 mutual friend and she said he posted a very rude facebook status about me being pregnant and she even let me go on her facebook to read it and screen shot it. Since this status he has been at a bar within two streets from my work which is a violation of the restraining order (a girl I know is a server there and sent me a facebook message telling me he was there) and now he is trying to add my best friend and boyfriend on facebook to get info on me. I am unsure of what to do. I don't think the police can do anything unless I make a report ASAP if he does something again but now I am starting to get worried for my families safety and my own since I am pregnant and he is obviously pissed. Should I go into the sheriffs office and explain this and see what they can do? I just feel dumb if they can't do anything or are upset that I didn't report it in the first place I now regret that I didn't....

Thanks.

Why would you bother getting a restraining order if you had no intentions of holding him accountable for it. You ruin your own credibility by knowing he violated it and didn't care.

The best thing you can do is tell the police about everything and start reporting EVERY violation.

He's been testing you, and you have proven that he can do what he wants and get away with it.

If i was in your situation I would definitely report it. Idk what proof they will need but it will be good to at least get in contact with someone to get the ball rolling. Sorry you are having to deal with this  

Make sure you record everything he does so you can report it. If you're afraid something might happen, you need to report everything he does. He's testing his limits to see how far you'll let him go.

Quoting Red Bottom:" Why would you bother getting a restraining order if you had no intentions of holding him accountable ... [snip!] ... reporting EVERY violation. He's been testing you, and you have proven that he can do what he wants and get away with it."

obviously I am well aware of that. I wanted it for protection if I needed it but nobody wants to see someone get hurt either. He wants to be a cop and I didn't want to ruin his career by calling the cops on him for violating but now hes been pushing his limits by talking about my child / unborn child and I realize the mistakes I made earlier by not reporting.

Quoting ♥Love♥:" If i was in your situation I would definitely report it. Idk what proof they will need but it will be ... [snip!] ... but it will be good to at least get in contact with someone to get the ball rolling. Sorry you are having to deal with this  "

Thanks I appreciate that.

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" Make sure you record everything he does so you can report it. If you're afraid something might happen, you need to report everything he does. He's testing his limits to see how far you'll let him go. "

Yeah I agree with both of you about him testing his limits. It's very scary.

I feel like since I know a significant amount of info on your history, I'm pretty confident in saying that you need to report him. I know you don't want to hurt him and you very much want to be able to just move forward, everything is different now that he lives here again. Put yourself and your children first over his career. You are too good to be dealing with this smurf. You've given him plenty if chances and showed way more compassion than he deserves. Feel confident that he's ruining his career not you.

<3 you, Ash.

Quoting CrapBag.:" I feel like since I know a significant amount of info on your history, I'm pretty confident in saying ... [snip!] ... chances and showed way more compassion than he deserves. Feel confident that he's ruining his career not you. <3 you, Ash."

Thanks love you too! I think I will go in/call tomorrow and just see if there is anything I can do.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ash & brooklynn +1:</b>" Thanks love you too! I think I will go in/call tomorrow and just see if there is anything I can do."</blockquote>




Even if too much time has passed, you can ask them to out it in your file and next time... Tell me and I will help you. The other posters are right, he's testing you. And he's a dose of crazy. Allow yourself good things and stop putting up with his smurf!

Quoting CrapBag.:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ash & brooklynn +1:</b>" Thanks love you too! I think I will ... [snip!] ... posters are right, he's testing you. And he's a dose of crazy. Allow yourself good things and stop putting up with his smurf!"

yeah I totally agree. I did unblock him the day he tried adding cody on FB just to see if hed friend request me so far not yet but I am sure he will that way I could report it...

<blockquote><b>Quoting ash & brooklynn +1:</b>" obviously I am well aware of that. I wanted it for protection if I needed it but nobody wants to see ... [snip!] ... been pushing his limits by talking about my child / unborn child and I realize the mistakes I made earlier by not reporting."</blockquote>




He's not going to be a cop after having multiple restraining orders against him. Do you think someone like him needs to be entering people's homes anyways? You got it because you were in danger. Why get it if you weren't going to use it?

Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ash & brooklynn +1:</b>" obviously I am well aware of that. ... [snip!] ... needs to be entering people's homes anyways? You got it because you were in danger. Why get it if you weren't going to use it?"

I got it because I was being harassed not in danger what so ever but now I feel the circumstances have drastically changed.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ash & brooklynn +1:</b>" I got it because I was being harassed not in danger what so ever but now I feel the circumstances have drastically changed. "</blockquote>




Harassed generally leads to more, which is why they issued it. Restraining orders are NOT easy to get.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ash & brooklynn +1:</b>" I got it because I was being harassed not in danger what so ever but now I feel the circumstances have drastically changed. "</blockquote>



He lives here now so that and the baby changes thing, I get that. You know what to do. Let me know if you need anything.