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Sounds like ODD and behavior and compulsion issues. My 10 yr old has both she was the same way when younger, we have done counceling etc...nothing helped at all. But doing things my own way. No meds and just talking it out.

She is a very good kid but at times she will have her outburts that are much like your sons, and she is 10. She used to hit spit kick say stuff that would shock you.
Find a new dr, get a referal whatever you can, find a someone to work with you and him, it didnt help us but it may help you.

She rarely does them anymore, but once in a while it can just come out of nowhere. GL

Well I have to say it makes me sick how many women suggested hitting your child as a way to make him better...Anyways I would say talk with your doc again and explain all that he does in detail. If they wont listen get a second opinion. You can call the number on the back of your card and they can recommend people in the area for you to see

The girl who mentioned Food allergies could be on to somthing. I have read a lot of studies lately on how food can effect behavior. There are all these new studies on how Gluten is one of the major causes for issue with behavior in children and how some child who no longer have gluten in their diet are completely different. It never hurts to try and remove a certian thing from his diet for a month, see if the behavior changes. Than add it back into his diet to see if he behaves the same way

Has anything in his life changed in the last year? It sounds like he would rather have negitive attention than postive attention. There are ways to reverse this, but its a very long process. I would really speak with a specialist.

You are the mother and know when things arent right. I would call the doc again and make it clear this is not just a boy thing. Get him evaluated.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Married with children AIO:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm Marbles:</b>" He sounds like he needs his ass beat. You ... [snip!] ... them up, he's old enough to hold a bottle and help change."</blockquote> Beating your children is not the way to go."</blockquote>




Then you must like your child acting like a damn animal. When all options are exhausted I see absolutely nothing wrong with spanking. He SPIT in your face. That's really embarrassing. I don't care how many times people say "spanking is not the answer"sometimes it is!!!! Either discipline him now or the jail system will discipline him later. Point blank period. That's my opinion on the matter.

<blockquote><b>Quoting bfenway:</b>" Well I have to say it makes me sick how many women suggested hitting your child as a way to make him ... [snip!] ... know when things arent right. I would call the doc again and make it clear this is not just a boy thing. Get him evaluated."</blockquote>




Thank you for actually advice.. I have been researching the whole gluten thing and think I will give that a try as well as finding a new doctor.

Good luck, but bottom line: DON'T hit your kid because he hits. Not even a swat. That just reinforces that its okay to hit.

I'm disgusted by these women, If you try it once thats fine to show him how it feels when he hits, but never after once.

And i wouldnt even recommend hitting once, I'm sure he knows how it feels when he hurts himself. You only show him how it feels if he has a disorder or something where he doesnt comprehend that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Natural Goddess Mommy:</b>" Good luck, but bottom line: DON'T hit your kid because he hits. Not even a swat. That just reinforces ... [snip!] ... feels when he hurts himself. You only show him how it feels if he has a disorder or something where he doesnt comprehend that."</blockquote>




Your disgusted on how other parents parent their kids? That's hilarious because I'm disgusted how the OP lets her child completely disrespect her and his siblings. I will be dammed if my child spits in my face. EVER they would be spanked quicker than anything. But then again my children have mad respect for me, and would never act like that.
It's not the kids fault he acts like that, it's his parents fault for not parenting. If all else fails there is nothing wrong with spanking. I didn't say leave bruises or beat him within an inch of his life. She needs to take control of her house and not let a 5 year run it.

Quoting I'm Marbles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Natural Goddess Mommy:</b>" Good luck, but bottom line: DON'T ... [snip!] ... say leave bruises or beat him within an inch of his life. She needs to take control of her house and not let a 5 year run it."

its not always the parents fault and no one should jump to the conclusion that it is her fault in this case, based on the information provided :-/ There could be a number of underlying reasons for his behavior

I didn't read through all the responses but this is my take on it.
My son is the same age and acts nothing like this. Is he in kindergarten or any kind of school yet? My son wants to please me and and his teachers when he gets a punishment for doing something wrong it corrects his behavior instantly. Kids need consistency and he shouldn't be controlling your house. I would get him evaluated and take back control of my house right now! If you don't do something now it's only going to get worse.

Quoting I'm Marbles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Natural Goddess Mommy:</b>" Good luck, but bottom line: DON'T ... [snip!] ... say leave bruises or beat him within an inch of his life. She needs to take control of her house and not let a 5 year run it."

I would hate to see if you have a child that has a behavior issue. You just assume because he is still doing things she hasnt tried everything. That she is caving. Not all children with issue will cahnge from the parent being a parent! Sometimes it is more than that and they need help.

Quoting Married with children AIO:" <blockquote><b>Quoting bfenway:</b>" Well I have to say it makes me sick how many women ... [snip!] ... advice.. I have been researching the whole gluten thing and think I will give that a try as well as finding a new doctor."

Yeah it relaly cpould be somthing as simple as this you just never know. You are doing your best and willing to try new things. You can always start a food diary too and see if you notice and changes in behavior when he eats certain things.

Good Luck and Stick with what your doing and it will work out. Also it doesnt thurt to have him see someone so they can see what needs to eb done or give you suggestion on what to do.

Quoting Natural Goddess Mommy:" Good luck, but bottom line: DON'T hit your kid because he hits. Not even a swat. That just reinforces ... [snip!] ... feels when he hurts himself. You only show him how it feels if he has a disorder or something where he doesnt comprehend that."

Omg, you have ONE child who isn't even a year old. WTF Could you possibly have to offer as far as parenting advice?

STFU