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He sounds like he needs his ass beat. You shouldn't put up with a 5 year old threading you, you're letting him run the house. "I'll wake up my sisters" let him wake them up, he's old enough to hold a bottle and help change.

My son is 4 and has his moments but not constantly and he will be hurting if he EVER spit in my face. take him back to get checked out and don't take "he's just being a boy" for an answer! maybe video tap his actions and show them to his doctor (or super nanny lol srry)

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm Marbles:</b>" He sounds like he needs his ass beat. You shouldn't put up with a 5 year old threading you, you're letting ... [snip!] ... letting him run the house. "I'll wake up my sisters" let him wake them up, he's old enough to hold a bottle and help change."</blockquote>




Beating your children is not the way to go.

Sounds like he knows how to get his way, and how to push your buttons. Seek out some help from a therapist, and maybe they can help you guys figure out consequences that work and ways to get him to act appropriately. He must know you guys are givin in or that he can get away with stuff, so he just does what he wants. Good luck. Sounds tough 

DS3 is the exact same way. He isn't even 2 yet and beats his head on the walls, destroys everything, bites, hits, he even yanked DH Xbox off the TV stand today for no reason. He is a very hard child to take care of. He is special needs (can't speak, learning to sign) and has several different types of therapy (OT, speech, developmental) and now he is getting behavioral therapy because his coordinator said we needed to get this behavior stopped before DD is due in May. I'd definitely look for some behavioral therapy.

I've got 2 boys and neither of them act like that, not even my 4 yo with autism/adhd..

I think he sounds very angry..do you show him affection often? Hug him, tell him you love him, etc throughout the day?

Does he get a lot of outside time? My boys are 2 and 4..they need at least an hour a day outside. The older they get, the more they need...

<blockquote><b>Quoting HamHam:</b>" Sounds like he knows how to get his way, and how to push your buttons. Seek out some help from a therapist, ... [snip!] ... He must know you guys are givin in or that he can get away with stuff, so he just does what he wants. Good luck. Sounds tough "</blockquote>




The thing is we never give in that's why I don't get it!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Married with children AIO:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm Marbles:</b>" He sounds like he needs his ass beat. You ... [snip!] ... them up, he's old enough to hold a bottle and help change."</blockquote> Beating your children is not the way to go."</blockquote>



Yeah it's not, but her son acts like an smurf because she lets him walk all over her. It's not always the kids fault it's the parents and how they are parenting. It would be the day my kid spit in my face hit their baby sibling. Smurf that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:</b>" I've got 2 boys and neither of them act like that, not even my 4 yo with autism/adhd.. I think he sounds ... [snip!] ... a lot of outside time? My boys are 2 and 4..they need at least an hour a day outside. The older they get, the more they need..."</blockquote>




He gets most of the attention he is in school it's winter here (-25c) so we can't go outside so we go swimming to the play cafe and when hubby has to go somewhere he always gets to go just him.

Quoting I'm Marbles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Married with children AIO:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... it's the parents and how they are parenting. It would be the day my kid spit in my face hit their baby sibling. Smurf that."

She's the OP  

I don't spank and that behavior would be getting a spanking every time he acted that horribly. At the very least get that kid in therapy, because that is NOT normal 5 year old behavior.

Quoting Married with children AIO:" I just can't deal with him as terrible as it sounds.. I serve dinner he won't eat it.. Okay kids do that ... [snip!] ... and he just does not care he does what he wants! Believe me my husband and I have been trying everything! I just can't take it!"

Oh man.. if anyone even my child spit in my face, my husband would smurfing lose it.

I would NOT want to be them if my husband walked in on that.

The bottom line is that nothing you've done up to this point has affected his behavior in a positive way. I would seek out a second opinion. You need outside help with him and now is the time to get it done. If you don't get him sorted out now, his behavior will only get worse.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Married with children AIO:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm Marbles:</b>" He sounds like he needs his ass beat. You ... [snip!] ... them up, he's old enough to hold a bottle and help change."</blockquote> Beating your children is not the way to go."</blockquote>




No you're right. Just let him continue to spit in your face and smack his siblings. It's all good.  


You need to d something. Stop saying youve tried everything, because obviously you haven't. I'd take everything out of his room and make him sit there in complete emptiness. He can earn absolutely everything back by acting right.

Quoting Ravey Candyass:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Married with children AIO:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... out of his room and make him sit there in complete emptiness. He can earn absolutely everything back by acting right."

I love this.

Say hello to an empty smurfing life, they can earn it back.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Married with children AIO:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HamHam:</b>" Sounds like he knows how to get his way, and how ... [snip!] ... does what he wants. Good luck. Sounds tough "</blockquote> The thing is we never give in that's why I don't get it!"</blockquote>

I see. Then please get a second opinion from a dr or a therapist. Not sure what your son's behavioral history is but I'd think if it's been going on for a little while, then an assessment is warranted. All the best to you guys.