re: adventuring into the unknown

When I was pregnant we only had sex like once a month, now we have sex like every other day (big improvement!) I don't know, I have a lot of fun. I don't know if he does or not, but ya know. Maybe have sex in fun places...like the kitchen table? Maybe use whipped cream or melted chocolate. That could be fun. Try some crazy positions. Something my SO and I used to do when we first met was played this "game" where we could do anything we wanted to the other person to make them want to have sex, aside from actually have sex. The goal was too hold off as long as you could from doing it and to make the other person cave first. So it's makes it more fun and kind of a challenge.

Quoting Kyleigh'sMommy12:" because it's BORING..i mean seriously. it rarely happens and when it does, its all about him...i dont ... [snip!] ... know how to explain it...i guess maybe it was where i was pregnant and had the baby..its just not as FUN as it was before baby"

Maybe you should try talking to him about it. I mean adding another person to the bedroom isn't going to help him be less selfish. Talking to him may help.

Quoting Kyleigh'sMommy12:" because it's BORING..i mean seriously. it rarely happens and when it does, its all about him...i dont ... [snip!] ... know how to explain it...i guess maybe it was where i was pregnant and had the baby..its just not as FUN as it was before baby"

That's how it was with my SO and I. I had to have a looooong (meaning months) with him until he finally got it. I mean our sex life isn't all awesome, orgasmic, porness but it's a lot better. Try other things first, don't let a threesome be the first option. Try browsing the local sex shops, believe me! Sex shops have more than you know lol. Buy toys, role play with costumes, surprise each other, if that doesn't work then use the threesome as your last resort?

Quoting Raindancer:" Maybe you should try talking to him about it. I mean adding another person to the bedroom isn't going to help him be less selfish. Talking to him may help."

I don't know a man (personally) that wouldn't jump at the chance to sleep with someone else with their SO's consent lol

Quoting ~Mama*Cakes~:" I don't know a man (personally) that wouldn't jump at the chance to sleep with someone else with their SO's consent lol"

Haha, my SO. I suggested an open relationship or a 3-some one time and he's like "But I don't want to have sex with anyone else"

Quoting Erin Berlin:" Haha, my SO. I suggested an open relationship or a 3-some one time and he's like "But I don't want to have sex with anyone else""

I'd say that one is a keeper lol. All the guys I know are like "Hell yeah man if my wife was up for it, I'd totally run with that smurf" lol

Quoting ~Mama*Cakes~:" I'd say that one is a keeper lol. All the guys I know are like "Hell yeah man if my wife was up for it, I'd totally run with that smurf" lol"

He definitely is a keeper  

Quoting ~Mama*Cakes~:" I don't know a man (personally) that wouldn't jump at the chance to sleep with someone else with their SO's consent lol"

Mine wouldn't but that is because we don't want to go sleeping around with other people while we are supposed to be in a relationship committed to one another and no one else. He thinks of it the same way I think of it if he cannot bear the thought of me being with another how would I feel. I personally don't see the appeal of watching your man touch another woman the way he is only supposed to touch you and watch him kiss her like he kisses you and then watch him do this thing that is supposed to be shared between two people that love one another without having to add that extra stuff to the bedroom. Honestly I think it is disgusting, (I am not judging just stating my opinion.) My aunt and uncle did this on their honeymoon and it hurt her to know he was ok with it but she didn't realize how bad it did until after it all went down. They stayed married but constantly had fights and she would constantly lash out at him because she grew to hate him after that. Especially because they kept doing it and she just let herself grow numb to it. Since my uncle has died she has gone insane smurfing every person she comes into contact with. Like it is sad that that is the thing that just smurfed her up. I feel bad for her son because he was the one most severely hurt by all of this.

Quoting Raindancer:" Mine wouldn't but that is because we don't want to go sleeping around with other people while we are ... [snip!] ... that is the thing that just smurfed her up. I feel bad for her son because he was the one most severely hurt by all of this."

I understand what your saying but I honestly do not give a smurf what these men that I know do in their relationships. I just know how they are. Some of them are just smurfing jerks. I have grown out of the threesome phase "Been there done that" when I was 18 through just two years ago. I met my SO and we do not share. Which is why I suggested other things to the OP besides a threesome. Yes honestly and truthfully there are men out there who would jump at the chance. I did not say ALL. I said some. The ones I worked with would because they're just nasty like that. As for me that's not my cup of tea anymore. I would hope it's not my SO's either because that's a deal breaker for me. I would not tolerate that smurf.

Quoting Raindancer:" Mine wouldn't but that is because we don't want to go sleeping around with other people while we are ... [snip!] ... that is the thing that just smurfed her up. I feel bad for her son because he was the one most severely hurt by all of this."

My other posts should of showed how I felt about threesomes O.o