re: WWYD??

About 6 years ago, a couple that lived down the road from where I was living wanted to include me on their threesomes they like to do from time to time, and to be honest, I was pretty excited. It was going to be my first, and I was newly single and I figured it would be some sex I could enjoy without having to be in a relationship. And I talked with the couple on numerous occasions to get that uncomfortable feeling out of the way. Didn't take long for the husband to send me private messages though where his wife wasn't in on them, and he kept writing me things he wanted to do and how he wanted to 'test me out' before the threesome. I ended it then and there and talked to the both of them why I didn't want to be apart of it. I don't mind being a part of something fun, but I refuse to be a reason (or one of them) for someone's marriage being destroyed. About a year after I backed out, their marriage ended because he was cheating.
It doesn't matter what he said about sending the messages. He shouldn't have sent them, period. Its dishonest, especially when it was already agreed they were going to have a threesome. Its not like he was going to miss out. He was getting greedy and wanted to see how far he could get.

Quoting Gizmo ♥ Bry:" About 6 years ago, a couple that lived down the road from where I was living wanted to include me on ... [snip!] ... to have a threesome. Its not like he was going to miss out. He was getting greedy and wanted to see how far he could get. "

I really do agree with you on this note there should have been no reason they were talking behind her back, if the conversations were being had without her the intent for action was also stated and in my opinion intending/wanting to interact without your partner is not have a "threesome"Deceiving your partner is just as bad as actually cheating my mother always told me if you thought about doing it and you wanted to do it then you aren't being honest with your partner and any form of deception is wrong.