re: 14, going on 15, and may be pregnant?

i was a teen mom....feel free to message me anytime. Take a test soon , so u will know either way. Does this older guy know your real age?

take a test
tell your mom
and stop acting so damn grown up. If you're not pregnant, take this as a wakeup call and stop what you're doing.

Quoting Valentines day baby girl:" take a test 1st..but plzz do not listen to the negative comments on here...you woulnt be the 1st 15 year ... [snip!] ... your baby..there are many programs out there that help teen mothers..you can do it and it sounds like you would love your baby"

that is the ABSOLUTE worst advice EVER!

that's not for you to decide or even suggest. that is between herself and her parents. She will figure out what is best for her.

Have you taken a test yet? I'd take two or three tests if I were you. If it comes back positive, you probably are pregnant. False positives tests aren't as common as false negative tests (take more than one test either way!), don't just rely on your period being late. As young as you are, your period may not be regular (at least mine wasn't when I was your age). I'm all for the pro-life option, but you do need to ask yourself what kind of life you can offer a child when you yourself are still a child. You can always look towards adoption as well. No matter what, it's up to you, but it's a very big decision to make considering your age. You're not old enough to work and financially support the child, once you are old enough to work you'll have a one/two year old and have to worry about a babysitter/day care (which is not cheap). On top of that, if the father is over the age of nineteen and having sex with a fourteen year old, it doesn't exactly sound like he's the brightest Crayon in the box (no offense to you, but it is illegal) and shows you decision-making isn't one of his best qualities, which should make you question how great of a father he would be for this child. No matter what, if you are pregnant, you absolutely have to tell your parents, no matter how scared you are, because they will be the ones to support you and help you through whatever decision you do make.

There are women out there that are 30 years old and have a job that have a hard time raising a baby with the help of their baby daddy. You are only a child. I am almost 20 with a 10 month old and it isn't easy. If I could I would have waited. Being a mom isn't as easy as they make it out to be on 16 and pregnant. But you are only 14 years old. No one will hire you, even with a workers permit you are only allotted so many hours a week you can work. Ten hours a week will not provide diapers and wipes, formula, clothes, medication, insurance, doctors appointments or anything for that matter. Yes, the government does provide resources for you but you don't want your child solely relied on the government. I am not trying to be mean. These are the facts of the situation. I hope you make your decision wisely and not for YOU but for the life you could possibly be bringing in this world.

Quoting Jennasmommy :" There are women out there that are 30 years old and have a job that have a hard time raising a baby with ... [snip!] ... situation. I hope you make your decision wisely and not for YOU but for the life you could possibly be bringing in this world."

Exactly.. don't rely on what the government can provide for you, because I know quite a few women who had kids young and now they're stuck relying on what's given to them. Granted, they do what they can to provide for their children, but they're stuck at home all day with them, unable to go out and do anything with them because they don't have jobs or any source of income and have to rely on WIC and EBT.

Quoting Carmen B. Rotten:" Exactly.. don't rely on what the government can provide for you, because I know quite a few women who ... [snip!] ... to go out and do anything with them because they don't have jobs or any source of income and have to rely on WIC and EBT."

This is exactly what I was trying to say. I mean its possible to stop relying on the government when you have a good job... But for her age a good job won't come around for sometime because the baby daddy will probably bail since he could be and SHOULD be going to jail for statutory rape. :/

<blockquote><b>Quoting Destiel:</b>" there in things in life much much much worse than death"</blockquote>




Quoted for goddamn truth! Quality of life trumps all.

Good luck OP. If you are pregnant, tell your parents. If you aren't, ditch the guy, get on BC, and consider yourself lucky. For your own good, ditch the man and tell your folks or police about him. No man older than nineteen would want to sex up a girl your age unless he was disturbed. Not because you aren't worth loving or attractive, but because a healthy man would see you as a child.

Yes, please, if you're not pregnant PLEASE get some birth control! Mine was only $9 when I was taking it (I think anyone can afford $9 a month), and the insurance I'm on now actually has free birth control. Stock up!

Take a test. I would take a test before I would post on here. At least all the rude comments would be a tad more warranted. But take a test, find out for sure. Talk with your parents STOP having sex. I lost my virginity at 13. At the same time I used protection and it was so a gross older man/boy. Cmon I know you're not going to stop having sex because some random forum mom told you to. But at least start using protection. Do not bring a baby into this world at 14. No matter what happens that baby and yourself are going to deal with emotional troubles for the rest of your lives. If you're going act like an adult, think like one. Condoms are free. BC is free now. Go get some...

Op, did you find out if you are?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Carmen B. Rotten:</b>" Yes, please, if you're not pregnant PLEASE get some birth control! Mine was only $9 when I was taking ... [snip!] ... I was taking it (I think anyone can afford $9 a month), and the insurance I'm on now actually has free birth control. Stock up!"</blockquote>




If there is a free clinic around or a planned parenthood they will gibe you a bunch of free birth control for you and for whom ever you may be having sex with. They don't mess around. I am only 18 BUT I am married and was married before I got pregnant and even my husband having a great job and owning his own company and me having a good job it still isn't easy! Diapers and wipes add up! Take it from the ladies who are giving you advice and who have been there in your shoes, it isn't easy but since you are acting like an adult its time to start making desisions like one too. If you are pregnant tell your parents, its so much easier that way.

Quoting Destiel:" there in things in life much much much worse than death"