Need help with temper tantrum

What advice can you fellow moms give me on tantrums? My 3 year old throws a fit when he has to stop doing something he is enjoying. He did this earlier today, i even gave him a warning when it was coming up. He has such an attitude lately when talking to me, telling me i broke his heart, and i am frustrating him, etc. He has started kicking walls, and hitting walls too. He communicates very well most of the time, but i just don't know what to do when he gets like this. He was told he had to leave, and he started screaming like he was on fire or something, and wouldn't stop, even threw himself in the floor at my friend's house. So I started walking for the door with my other son in my arms. He followed when he realized I would really leave him. (Obviously i wouldn't actually leave, just stepped right outside the door). He ran after me screaming the whole way, and preceded to the outside where he threw himself on the ground, we didn't even make it to the car. Then I got my baby in the car, and I had to go and physically pick him up and put him the car, as he is screaming and kicking. I thought we got past this stage? I need some serious advice. When he disobeys at home, i send him to the corner, i'm consistent, but it doesn't seem to really help since he's in the corner a lot. He goes to school, so he's gone a few days a week for a few hours. I'm need some serious advice, I don't know what to do to get him to stop this behavior.
Thanks for reading if you made it this far.

Well according to happiest toddler on the block you have to let them know that you know what they want. So keep saying something like "You don't want to leave?" over and over and over and then say WEll we have to leave/go home.

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" Well according to happiest toddler on the block you have to let them know that you know what they want. ... [snip!] ... So keep saying something like "You don't want to leave?" over and over and over and then say WEll we have to leave/go home."

Sometimes I have no clue why he's upset. But I told him we had to go home, and he said okay. And he just lost it completely.

Threatening abandonment, even as a joke, is horrible for the patent/ child bond because in his mind, hex would be so lost without you. He can't believe you'd even joke about leaving him, and it almost always makes a tantrum worse. You can't keep him from getting upset, but staying calm and just acknowledging his feelings--"you are so mad because you don't want to leave. Mad mad mad. " This can go such a long way in getting him on your page becauseost of the time kids get more upset because they feel like they're not being heard. Then calmly say " I know you want to stay, but we have to go because (blank.) Maybe we can listen to so and so song in the car or you can play with so and so toy or you can do this when we get home!!!" Stay positive. Feeling like he has options outside of just staying or leaving will lighten things greatly. Good luck.

Quoting A is Me:" Threatening abandonment, even as a joke, is horrible for the patent/ child bond because in his mind, ... [snip!] ... home!!!" Stay positive. Feeling like he has options outside of just staying or leaving will lighten things greatly. Good luck."

I guess he was mad, it was hard to tell what emotion he was feeling because he was just screaming. Sometimes acting like i'm walking off is the only way to get him to come to me. Like after school he wants to stay and play, and I say come on Derek, and he just keeps playing. So I say "okay bye!" And he runs after me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Fertile Mertile + D & C:</b>" I guess he was mad, it was hard to tell what emotion he was feeling because he was just screaming. Sometimes ... [snip!] ... he wants to stay and play, and I say come on Derek, and he just keeps playing. So I say "okay bye!" And he runs after me."</blockquote>




It might be a quick fix in getting him to leave, but it's only making things worse in the long run, which is why you are noticing his tantrums just get worse and worse. I know it's hard to change your ways, but its worth a try if what you are doing isn't working. Letting your toddler know that you understand him and care about his wants can't ever do anything but make things better, IMO.

i would just ignore it, Presten does this too all the time like if were at the store or were at Mc Donalds and he's playing in the play place but it's time to leave he will SCREAM and throw himself on the floor it's really embarrassing. We just try to ignore it grab his hand and start walking out while explaining to him that were going home if he's still throwing a temper tantrum in the car then when we get home i put him in his room and close the door he freaks out sometimes like hitting his head and kicking his feet but i go in there and i tell him his behavior isn't acceptable and i will talk to you when you're calm once he's a little bit calmed down i go in there and i give him options like saying he can come outside and watch tv or have a snack or just stay in his room sometimes he starts crying again and freaking out, So i close the door and he comes out when he's ready and all calm i talk to him and then it's onto the next thing.

Quoting Bob Wehadababyitsaboy:" i would just ignore it, Presten does this too all the time like if were at the store or were at Mc Donalds ... [snip!] ... out, So i close the door and he comes out when he's ready and all calm i talk to him and then it's onto the next thing."

i used to do that too, maybe i will start again.