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I would be furious if DH quit his job without consulting me. Did she ask him why he quit?

For one, he needs to smurfing talk to you. For two, quitting his job and not providing a reason when he has two children to support? Lame.

I would be pissed if my husband would just up and quit his job. That is not except able IMO! That is something that you need to discuss with your spouse and make other arrangements to make sure bills are still paid and there is another job lined up. She needs to make sure she lets him know her concerns as well as gets him to open up to her as to why he just up and quit his job.

Seems a little fishy that he just got up and quit. Was he being mistreated? Did he get into trouble with someone?

Try talking to him, without blaming him or bitching at him for quitting. Tell him you understand how he must be feeling and that you're there to listen to him and support him no matter what. Ask him about his future plans. It'll be easier for him to open up to you if he feels like you'll listen instead of bitch.

Good luck.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyToWesley:</b>" I would be furious if DH quit his job without consulting me. Did she ask him why he quit?"</blockquote>



Yes, I am furious and yes I asked him why. He says he wasn't happy, something happened that day at work, he got angry and quit on emotions... Is the very short version of it

Basically.. My husband was her husbands boss (that is how she and I became friends) my husbands boss was screwing her husband over on pay last year.. Well he got fired and replaced so the problem was fixed. He made a mistake on a job and threw a fit and up and quit.. Screwing my husband over and of course my friend.
She wanted advise on what to do, she is sticking by his side 100% because she says she either needs to or she needs to leave him. He is just a very selfish person and is always doing things without thinking about how it is going to affect anyone but himself. And now he is being a diva and refusing to get a quick fix job because they now cannot afford to pay their bills. He has talked about wanting to do something else in the past but she told him he needs to have a plan in place before he does so.. And then he did this. She is on his case about getting a job because because not only did he up and quit, but he did this on the last day of the month and now all of their bills are due. He is being a complete "diva" and telling her that she is ruining his new "freedom".. IMO he has no freedom, he is in his thirties, not twenties, he has a family to provide for.
She wants him to go to counseling to learn how to communicate and he refuses to go, so she doesn't know what to do. She left last night to just diffuse the situation and my husband stayed the night there to try to talk to him after she spent the whole day at my house crying. I've really said all I can about it and suggested she come here and see if anyone else has been in a similar situation or has advice on how to now handle this.

<blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣PB:</b>" Basically.. My husband was her husbands boss (that is how she and I became friends) my husbands boss ... [snip!] ... it and suggested she come here and see if anyone else has been in a similar situation or has advice on how to now handle this."</blockquote>




Well all I can say is it sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. When your in your thirties and have a wife and children he needs to control his emotions and think before he reacts. Now he should have no other choice to get a short term job until he finds one that suits him better. I wouldn't be giving my husband a option if he up and did that to us. But I'm a hard ass and my family comes first.

Quoting Mom of Tristan/Rayah +1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting GL♣PB:</b>" Basically.. My husband was her husbands boss ... [snip!] ... better. I wouldn't be giving my husband a option if he up and did that to us. But I'm a hard ass and my family comes first."

I agree with all of this, but I can also see other alternatives.
Playing the devil's advocate here, but maybe he's just having a crisis of age here. He is realizing that he's in his 30s, has a wife and children, and that his freedom is basically gone, and that is scaring him. He wanted to do something for himself, so he did. I'm not saying it was right, but that could have been what he is thinking.
Is there any way that you could get a job for a little bit to pay the bills? Maybe give him a chance to have a little freedom and play housewife, until he realizes that he needs to put his family first?
I think that you should have someone watch your kids for a night, and the two of you go out to eat, have some free time together, maybe do something fun, and have a serious talk. Let him know that the two of you can still have free time every once in a while, and be a couple, as well as being parents and keeping up with your responsibilities. As a PP said, maybe try to discuss with him and have an open mind, and not go on attack mode.


Just a thought. Either way, good luck!

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