Open relationships?

My boyfriend of 4 years and I have had a modified open relationship for about 3 years. By modified I mean couple swaps, 3 ways (both with another guy and another girl) and every so often watching the other. We decided too do this because we were young when we fell in love and still had sexual explorations and fantasies that we wanted too try and experience together   it has worked very well for us, and wouldn't change it for the world (it's really so much fun ;)) jealously has never been an issue, no lying or cheating and we are the best working couple out of everyone else we know (we've had 2 big fights in the course of our relationship, bot resolved very quickly and through communication) but I'm just curious how others feel about the ideas?

* before anyone asks, that's the reason our daughter (who I am pregnant with now) was planned, because I wanted too make sure, without a doubt that this child was my boyfriends XD oh and please no 'slut shaming' I like sex, just like everyone else, and I love being in a committed relationship.

I think it's awesome and a testament to how strong you we emotionally that you can handle a relationship like that. I used to often fantasize about doing such things when I was in relationships, but unfortunately I am a jealous bitch :/

I see absolutely nothing wrong with it as long as y'all's adult life is for adults and you keep your kid out of it, which I'm sure YOU do ;) That was more of a genraluzed statement about all open relationships, to answer your question.

SrY Off topic, but how is that working? During Pregnancy.. If you can be happy why not? On the fact that you were trying TC, was it not just the 2 of you for that part?

Whatever floats your boat. Doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. right?

To each their own. Its not for myself and my husband, but that's not to say that it won't work well for anyone else.

I think whatever works for your relationship is perfect. It shows alot of love and respect that you two live so well together and keep eachothers wants and needs so high.

But as far as thinking only having 2 fights means anything...to me that means squat. A couple who aruge alot or little doesnt matter, as long as they can respect eachother listen and love through the disagreement

I would never be open to an open relationship if you wanted my opinion on open relationships for me and SO.

Thanks for the replies. I was just curious because you never hear about such a lifestyle because it is considered a 'taboo' of society  
And too answer a question: it was just the 2 of use during the 6months of ttc we had and we stopped swinging during the pregnancy too get rid of the very small risk there is too infection even with condoms, can never be too careful when there is a baby involved   and of course the child will never know, no kids what's too I ow about there parents sex life XD

Quoting Missie93:" Whatever floats your boat. Doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. right?"

  I personally would not do it. The "is he seeing her behind my back?" thought would not let me live in peace.

Quoting Avalei's mommy:" Thanks for the replies. I was just curious because you never hear about such a lifestyle because it is ... [snip!] ... there is a baby involved   and of course the child will never know, no kids what's too I ow about there parents sex life XD"

this topic and your profile have me wondering a few things.

I like sex too...with my husband lol 

<blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" this topic and your profile have me wondering a few things. "</blockquote>

Like what?   ask away, I'm a very open person... Vary rarely is anything 'too personal' too me  

Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" this topic and your profile have me wondering a few things. "

If it's what I'm thinking you're wondering. I think what she meant in her profile were personal experiences not relationship experiences.

Quoting Avalei's mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" this topic and your profile have ... [snip!] ... "</blockquote> Like what?   ask away, I'm a very open person... Vary rarely is anything 'too personal' too me  "

no, Im not really overly interested. Just seemed like your post was about a couple who were long term, serious, grown up

But the profile doesnt thats all.

Quoting Avalei's mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" this topic and your profile have ... [snip!] ... "</blockquote> Like what?   ask away, I'm a very open person... Vary rarely is anything 'too personal' too me  "

May I ask if you & hubby plan to keep the open relationship going once the baby is born?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):</b>" May I ask if you & hubby plan to keep the open relationship going once the baby is born?"</blockquote>

Going too depend on the baby I think, and how we adjust other aspects of our lifes. We currently live with my elderly parents too help them take care of the house as my father has cancer and my mother doesn't handle stress very well... My boyfriend and I decided it would be best if we moved in with them too help them out since my older siblings were being very selfish and refusing too help them (we take care of ourselves financially and saving up for our own place and an assisted living facility for my parents as they move later in there lives) but as far as continuing that lifestyle afterwards.... Most likely, depends on if we have the time honestly XD I would like too, boyfriend is indifferent too the idea (is happy with that I decide too do) probably something we'll discuss further once it becomes a possibility (after birth/ after breastfeeding)