DONE

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Um, if he was hitting and kicking my son, I'd be staying out of their issues and contacting whoever I need to in order to report that smurf and make sure he never sees my kids again. The son/kids is the most important thing in this whole high school drama bullsmurf, and he got one line, and that was just a mention.  

Quoting LeTs*StArT*a*RiOt!:" Um, if he was hitting and kicking my son, I'd be staying out of their issues and contacting whoever I ... [snip!] ... is the most important thing in this whole high school drama bullsmurf, and he got one line, and that was just a mention.  "

That is why I told him until court he is not taking our kids until he gets help and it is ALL HIM he doesnt get it ... just recently found out he had bipolar as a teen and I never saw it so I think its flared up again and its scurry

<blockquote><b>Quoting LeTs*StArT*a*RiOt!:</b>" Um, if he was hitting and kicking my son, I'd be staying out of their issues and contacting whoever I ... [snip!] ... is the most important thing in this whole high school drama bullsmurf, and he got one line, and that was just a mention.  "</blockquote>



Pretty much all of this^

Edit: just saw your response OP, I'm glad you're not letting him see them.

have you looked into a temporary restraining order and protective order until the court date....

<blockquote><b>Quoting LeTs*StArT*a*RiOt!:</b>" Um, if he was hitting and kicking my son, I'd be staying out of their issues and contacting whoever I ... [snip!] ... is the most important thing in this whole high school drama bullsmurf, and he got one line, and that was just a mention.  "</blockquote>




 

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" That is why I told him until court he is not taking our kids until he gets help and it is ALL HIM he ... [snip!] ... get it ... just recently found out he had bipolar as a teen and I never saw it so I think its flared up again and its scurry"

Then you need to stay away from him. Plain and simple. I don't know why you'd voluntarily go near someone who brings about so much bullsmurf.

Quoting LeTs*StArT*a*RiOt!:" Then you need to stay away from him. Plain and simple. I don't know why you'd voluntarily go near someone who brings about so much bullsmurf. "

because I had no choice before as we have children and i had to see him or speak to him about the kids????

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" because I had no choice before as we have children and i had to see him or speak to him about the kids????"

Honestly? There's ways around it.
Me and BD haven't spoken in a week and that was just when I called to see when I should expect the child support payment, and found out that his lung collapsed lol. We do not speak, at all, because his girlfriend is a drama queen and I can't emotionally deal with it. When we do speak, it's 5 minutes or less, maybe once every two months. He gets info on LO via his mother, whom I speak to daily. We both prefer it this way because it keeps his household calm since his girlfriend has nothing to bitch about, and I don't have to hear bitching myself.
And I understand all that's going on between him and the friend is upsetting, but it really doesn't concern you when you think about it. I mean, you're not dating him and while she is your friend, I've never really been concerned with anyone my friends date. I don't see why it's causing issues between the two of you either, unless I forgot that part.

ETA: Actually, I don't think I've spoken to him since the 17th so it's been a while.

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" because I had no choice before as we have children and i had to see him or speak to him about the kids????"

Yeah no. If he's a nutjob you could have taken him to court a long time ago... You don't have to say smurf to him unless it's concerning the kids, and you could have told him that if he came near you, you'd call the cops on him for harassment. What happens between him and the friend is not your concern, and your best bet would have been to stay out of it. You invited drama by getting into matters that do not concern you in the slightest.

Quoting LeTs*StArT*a*RiOt!:" Yeah no. If he's a nutjob you could have taken him to court a long time ago... You don't have to say ... [snip!] ... bet would have been to stay out of it. You invited drama by getting into matters that do not concern you in the slightest. "

SHE and I are freinds have been for years, I do stay out of it or try to and he just recently went completely batsmurf crazy..

SO now im just refusing to respond to texts and hes been told to stay away as well or were getting a restraining order

Quoting Mrs.Josh Ramsay:" SHE and I are freinds have been for years, I do stay out of it or try to and he just recently went completely batsmurf crazy.. "

Meh. I still say that anything concerning him and his relationships is none of your concern. It invites drama.

Your kids are the main concern and if he's as unstable as you say, you shouldn't be waiting to get a restraining order.

Quoting LeTs*StArT*a*RiOt!:" Meh. I still say that anything concerning him and his relationships is none of your concern. It invites ... [snip!] ... Your kids are the main concern and if he's as unstable as you say, you shouldn't be waiting to get a restraining order. "

omg she and i were friends FIRST why should i stop being friends with her because he cant take a hint?

Quoting Vodka Knockers:" Honestly? There's ways around it. Me and BD haven't spoken in a week and that was just when I called ... [snip!] ... of you either, unless I forgot that part. ETA: Actually, I don't think I've spoken to him since the 17th so it's been a while."

around her friends dont date friends exes it's just something we believe in and i am not trying to get involved but we are VERY close like sisters.. I know his relationships are not my business thats not my concern overly its my kids.. and i am having my parents hand the kids over if they go to his again but she is my friend and he is harassing her and of course we will talk about things..