How many chores are too many?

My kids have chores, just like I did growing up. MIL is acting like I give them too much to do. Is this normal, too much or too little? Also what chores do your kids do?

9 y/o: cleans her bedroom, takes her hanpter downstairs, puts her dirty dishes into the sink, helps me dry dishes and occassionally feeds the cat.

6 y.o: cleans his room, hamper downstairs, dirty dishes in the sink

4 y/o: helps his brother clean his room

they are all expected to clean if they make a mess in the living/dining room

ETA: they also take the garbage and recycling outside

That is not even close to being too much. My 4 year old has daily chores, that's life in this house! Even my two year old chips in.

I think that's good. My 7 year old does a lot, makes her bed daily, feeds 1 dog daily, cleans and prepares 1 dogs cage, cleans toilets on weekends, fold her clothes on weekends, and wipes down the kitchen table.

That is not too many. We do roughly the same thing. I plan to add more at age ten for all of them.
Like instead of just bring their laundry to where I can do it, they have to start it and move it and I'll help them fold it. They will also start loading the dish washer around that age.

Quoting sassy chef:" That is not even close to being too much. My 4 year old has daily chores, that's life in this house! Even my two year old chips in."

she's acting like they clean ALL day, lol. everything takes them under 10 minutes, minus their rooms depending on how messy those are

My 4 year olds clean their rooms by themselves, and put their dishes in the dishwasher. I also have them clean up their toothpaste off the sink on a weekly basis. They put their own clothes away in their drawers. Whatever toys they bring out they must put back, and I routinely ask them to put away other random things that get brought out during the day, regardless whose they are. They also set the table and empty the sliverware.

They are pretty much just cleaning up after themselves. That's even not a chore IMO. It's what's expected.

ETA: My 3 1/2 year old does all that minus the hamper thing, and cleans up after his 7 month old brother.

That's nowhere close to too much. DD is 18 months old and has been cleaning her own room (with some assistance of course) and helping me with laundry since she could walk. She likes to try and sweep now, and to put the clean cups in the drawer for me when I do dishes too.

That's not a lot at all! My 4 year old puts his dirty dishes in sink, cleans his room (the best he can), helps me with laundry (though he wants to do it), simple things that he can handle. Nothing wrong with giving kids chores, especially that few. Teaches them responsibility.

I don't think you aregiving your children to much, Children learn by what their parents teach them, My childrenare older I mean I have step-children also Our oldest almost 12, walks the dog, feeds the dog, Helps pack the dishwasher every night and just odd jobs like e.g takes the rubbish out, dust pans sometimes, checks the mail.
if i was to tell you all my kids i would be here all day, Our youngest is almost 7 he helps re-stock the toliet paper, helps take the washing basket to the laundry, brings in the news papers, helps un-pack shopping.
I think children need to be responsible as it will help them later in life, Don't let anyone tell you different.

Quoting LeTs*StArT*a*RiOt!:" That's nowhere close to too much. DD is 18 months old and has been cleaning her own room (with some assistance ... [snip!] ... since she could walk. She likes to try and sweep now, and to put the clean cups in the drawer for me when I do dishes too. "

DD sweeps when she knows it needs to be done. one day she said she was bored so she was sweeping. hey, if it entertains you go for it lol.

i want to try to teach her how to do laundry (unassisted)but i think shes a little too young. although she helps me

Quoting Amy {OneGirl, TwoBoys}:" she's acting like they clean ALL day, lol. everything takes them under 10 minutes, minus their rooms depending on how messy those are"

I don't think it is overboard at all.

My four year old helps replace the trash bags when I take out the trash (she's in charge of the bathroom trash), she has to put away her basket of toys every night before bed (we do two "clean ups" of the living room, the toys get put in a designated basket & those baskets get taken back to their rooms each night). She has to make her bed, and help clear the table at meals. She handles it just fine.

eta: And puts away her own laundry.  

Quoting Amy {OneGirl, TwoBoys}:" DD sweeps when she knows it needs to be done. one day she said she was bored so she was sweeping. hey, ... [snip!] ... it lol. i want to try to teach her how to do laundry (unassisted)but i think shes a little too young. although she helps me"

Hey, if I could teach my kid to do it and she was old enough, you better believe she'd have some unassisted chores! I already have the 'you spill it/make it dirty, you clean it' rule with her, and she wipes up her own spills and messes.

In laws always find something to complain about. If your MIL wants to let her have no chores and deal with her being spoiled and waited on hand and foot, she can do it herself.