you still don't get it?
posted 2nd Feb
When I get upset, or mad I just need some time to breathe...
BUT for some reason after 4 years of being together my husband STILL does not get that and he just keeps pushing and pushing.
ESPECIALLY when I'm pregnant, I know I am a ton more irritable.
So I tell him to just stop and I leave the room, and he FOLLOWS me and continues and I just keep telling him to drop it and just leave me alone.
Of course not... he keeps pushing until I snap and scream at him, and then I'm a bitch.
Well what am I supposed to do?! You WON'T drop ANYTHING or give me my space....
Now I have a headache again...
I now random post... I just... don't understand why he continues to do this crap.
quoteposted 2nd Feb
He's simply just trying.
You both need to figure out a way to respect and communicate with each other. Find a middle ground.
Have him understand that if you're pissed or need time, to give you an hour. He must leave the room or just not talk to let you cool down. After an hour YOU must communicate to him. To what he's addressing or to what he wants to know.
That no one is to interrupt the other.
Or that if you two can't keep your cool, more time is needed to relax.
Seems childish, and it doesn't just work the first time. You both need to put the effort forth. To agree upon this.
My DH isn't a great communicator. No one in his family is, mine is the opposite. So, I was somewhat like your SO I would follow him or keep pressing till the issue was addressed. I'd get so hurt when he'd flip or that he wouldn't talk.
It wasn't until I watched his Family fight that I understood it isn't really him... more so how he was brought up.
Gotta give some to get some.
It's hard to give space when all you want is answers or to rip their face off... However, the end is worth it when we respect one another.
Hope things work out better love.
quoteposted 2nd Feb
Well maybe he's not done expressing his feelings.. and you just trying to shut him up sounds like you don't care about his feelings!! sounds like you need to work on your communication skills
quoteposted 2nd Feb
SO is like that, I however can't drop anything until it's talked through so I follow him around like a crazy lady lol and ya it ends in a fight... I don't understand why he can't communicate properly..
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