Sex talk

How old was your DS or DD when they started to ask you questions about sex? And what did you tell them?

My DD is 8. And just then after we had dinner, I was making a coffee and SO came up to me and kissed my neck and gave me a hug. The kids were still sitting at the table, and DD asked us if we have sex! I was like wtf!!!
I asked her what she thought sex was, and she said, when two people go to bed and lay on top of each other naked and kiss and cuddle under the blankets.

I expected to have this conversation in like 5 or so years.....not now.

I started getting question regarding the body at about 3ish when I was having my 2nd. He is 5 now & recently told me he never wanted to have sex...so I asked him what he thought it was & he said "Ummm, it's the naked kissing stuff mom"  ...like geez mom you are an idiot & he was explaining it to me. LOL

LOL omg i'd be mortified.. but i'd be honest.

Mine are only little now - 4mo & 21mo .. thank gosh the sex talk is a longggg way off!

Sex is everywhere and if you don't talk to her about it when she wants to know, she will find out from somewhere else that may or may not give her the best advice and information.
I would be open enough to answer her questions but don't cross a boundary that you are uncomfortable with. Starting open lines of communication with her now will let her feel comfortable to come and talk to you when that time does come years from now.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ecstasy:</b>" LOL omg i'd be mortified.. but i'd be honest. Mine are only little now - 4mo & 21mo .. thank gosh the sex talk is a longggg way off! "</blockquote>


I want to be honest with her, but I just have no idea on HOW honest I should be KWIM?

Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" Sex is everywhere and if you don't talk to her about it when she wants to know, she will find out from ... [snip!] ... of communication with her now will let her feel comfortable to come and talk to you when that time does come years from now."

Great advice  

My kids are that age and younger. They know about the birds and the bees (not in extreme detail) because I am fertile myrtle. They get curious about pregnancy and ask questions, and you just at it how it is. How your child described it is not much different than how I've told them. Adding on the boy and girl parts but and focusing on it being a biological thing. Eggs, seeds, fertilization. Not something you do with someone unless you are married... Etc.

Think back when you were that age. You probably knew quite a bit about sex, were curious, but lacking information. The lack of info does nothing to prevent wonder in a child, in fact it probably increases the propensity. Try not to be mortified! Sex is natural and all children wonder about it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting White Chocolate Milk:</b>" Sex is everywhere and if you don't talk to her about it when she wants to know, she will find out from ... [snip!] ... of communication with her now will let her feel comfortable to come and talk to you when that time does come years from now."</blockquote>

I totally get what you mean, but I just don't think she is mature enough to fully know everything.....if that makes sense?
Like the whole time she was talking about it, she was cracking up laughing. And I mean, she only thinks that it's to do with kissing and hugging and stuff. There was no mention of the "private parts".
I just don't wanna ruin her innocence.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Safka9973:</b>" My kids are that age and younger. They know about the birds and the bees (not in extreme detail) because ... [snip!] ... in fact it probably increases the propensity. Try not to be mortified! Sex is natural and all children wonder about it."</blockquote>

I wasn't mortified about it, just a lil shocked I guess. I mean I knew this conversation was going to happen one day.....just didn't expect it so soon. Iv told her that (without going into too much detail) it's something that happens when two people love each other. She just turned around and told me I'm gross, and me and SO hug and kiss too much

<blockquote><b>Quoting J&T+3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Safka9973:</b>" My kids are that age and younger. They know ... [snip!] ... that happens when two people love each other. She just turned around and told me I'm gross, and me and SO hug and kiss too much"</blockquote>




I guess shock is reasonable. My parents NEVER spoke to me about it, so I had a lot of misconceptions and perhaps romanticized/obsesse on the idea of sex a bit too much when I was that age.

If she's mentioning it, though, I'd definitely say that the time to at least approach the subject is now.

What grade is she in? We started sex ed in 4th grade at my Catholic School & by then I had a lot of hinky ideas already I remember.

<blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" What grade is she in? We started sex ed in 4th grade at my Catholic School & by then I had a lot of hinky ideas already I remember."</blockquote>



She has just started grade 3

Have you talked to her about periods or anything? If you haven't you really need to start. A few girls in my family have started at 9. You can start by actually explaining her cycle in real terms & just answer her questions.

Quoting justanothamotha:" Have you talked to her about periods or anything? If you haven't you really need to start. A few girls ... [snip!] ... in my family have started at 9. You can start by actually explaining her cycle in real terms & just answer her questions."

Oh god, i hadnt even thought about all the girly stuff. This is where i wish i had all boys....im never good at this sort of thing. i never had a real close relationship with my mother, and she never spoke to me about any of that.....so i kinda dont even know where to start, or what i should even say.
This is where my parenting skills suck  

Quoting J&T+3:" Oh god, i hadnt even thought about all the girly stuff. This is where i wish i had all boys....im never ... [snip!] ... any of that.....so i kinda dont even know where to start, or what i should even say. This is where my parenting skills suck  "

Maybe something like this would help you start?
http://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-American-Girl-Library/dp/1562476661