HEART BROKEN

We are in the adoption process and will be complete in April. We expressed interest in a little 7 yr old boy and he has been removed from the adoption list. He has been available for a while and literally 5 days after I inform our social worker he has been adopted. We have been waiting 10.5 years to be parents. I was so encouraged and happy but now I'm discouraged and heart broken. I feel helpless, can't biologically have children and adoption is so up and down....I just want our house to be filled with a child's laughter.

Aw that's sad   but he found the home he was meant to have and you will find the child that is meant to have your love as well. Chin up!

Why is this in teen pregnancy?
Imo I wouldn't be picky about the child I got. The adoption system is so full of kids I just don't see why there wouldn't be more than one child you want. I actually want to adopt disabled children because they are more amazing than I think anyone realizes.

wow im so glad he got adopted!

I imagine its a lot harder than searching for a house when you start picturing your new family like that....but like the other poster said chin up! you are doing a wonderful thing for some child, and that particular child already got his day! its happy...you will see.

Quoting A&J. ♥:" Aw that's sad   but he found the home he was meant to have and you will find the child that is meant to have your love as well. Chin up!"

I said the same thing but I have been on cloud nine. This is an emotional set back but you are right, He is being loved. Thank you for your kind words!

Quoting Raindancer:" Why is this in teen pregnancy? Imo I wouldn't be picky about the child I got. The adoption system is ... [snip!] ... than one child you want. I actually want to adopt disabled children because they are more amazing than I think anyone realizes."

Probably because she's new and didn't realize. And she never said she was picky, just that the one they had wanted to take in was adopted. Don't be an ass here. What people don't realize is that people who are adopting and a child they fall in love with is taken from them in some way, could be adopted by others, or mom backs out, is just as bad as losing a child to miscarriage or death. You wouldn't go into suffering and loss and tell them to suck it up and make another baby would you?

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Probably because she's new and didn't realize. And she never said she was picky, just that the one ... [snip!] ... to miscarriage or death. You wouldn't go into suffering and loss and tell them to suck it up and make another baby would you?"

 

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Probably because she's new and didn't realize. And she never said she was picky, just that the one ... [snip!] ... to miscarriage or death. You wouldn't go into suffering and loss and tell them to suck it up and make another baby would you?"

I am pointing out facts. A lot of people going through the adoption process learn not to get your hopes up because of this kind of smurf. But everyone wants a perfect child and it irks me. I see you people bitching about it all the time so don't even try to start that smurf.

Quoting Raindancer:" Why is this in teen pregnancy? Imo I wouldn't be picky about the child I got. The adoption system is ... [snip!] ... than one child you want. I actually want to adopt disabled children because they are more amazing than I think anyone realizes."

I just posted, did not realize it would end up in teen pregnancy. They are more amazing than anyone realizes, I was raised with a special needs uncle. I am not going through an agency but a child welfare program locally so we are limited. This program has a lot of teen agers that are older.

Quoting Raindancer:" I am pointing out facts. A lot of people going through the adoption process learn not to get your hopes ... [snip!] ... wants a perfect child and it irks me. I see you people bitching about it all the time so don't even try to start that smurf."

Yeah I bitch at people who are being stupid. Like you. Right now. You're being heartless. And smurfy. Like usual.

Quoting MyAdoption:" I just posted, did not realize it would end up in teen pregnancy. They are more amazing than anyone realizes, ... [snip!] ... through an agency but a child welfare program locally so we are limited. This program has a lot of teen agers that are older."

That makes sense then. Have you tried finding a different agency?

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Yeah I bitch at people who are being stupid. Like you. Right now. You're being heartless. And smurfy. Like usual."

I am speaking my mind and idgaf if it offends your ass.

Thank you to those who being polite and not formulating assumptions.

Quoting Raindancer:" I am speaking my mind and idgaf if it offends your ass."

Just like I don't care if I offend you by telling you you're being heartless. But seriously. If you have a miscarriage ever I sure hope people show you a bit more care, and if you have already I hope you were shown more compassion.

Quoting MyAdoption:" Thank you to those who being polite and not formulating assumptions."

I do hope it works out for you. I've always wanted to adopt, but my husband says he never could, so it's off our plate. That and I'm too close to the "too fat" limit they have for American adoptions lol