Parents with 2 or more kids!!!??

I am supper annoyed!!! do u reward each of your children every time one of them does something they earned .. for example one of your kids does something extra to get ice cream at dinner but the other doesn't , do u give both to them ??? To me doesn't seem fair at all , one earned it but other didn't dont they need to learn how to earn rewards and such.. idk maybe I am weird or different, but so annoyed staying with my aunt and my cousin helped me with my car I reward him with ice-cream after dinner , and then explained to his sister why she didn't get any, and she complains to her dad and then he comes out me to give it to her becuase he has tried that before when one gets it and the other doesnt but it does not work ... so am i loosing my mind does this not work anymore!??

I'm not a fan of giving one kid something and not the other, if it comes down to it and say DS cleans his room and DD doesn't then he gets a treat. But i like to make them both do something to get a reward, but no if one does something and the other doesn't the one who didn't do anything doesn't deserve a reward.

I always make it to where they both get something, I give them both chances to "got the mile" which is why I don't reward right away, I wait till later on to say "Alex you did this and it was good...and Axavier you did this and that was also good" .

Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" I'm not a fan of giving one kid something and not the other, if it comes down to it and say DS cleans ... [snip!] ... to get a reward, but no if one does something and the other doesn't the one who didn't do anything doesn't deserve a reward."

 


But at the same time, D is 7 and T is 3... so D understands that my 3 year old doesn't understand why she doesn't get a reward when he does.

I try to make both of them do something to earn a reward.

And if one did what I asked and the other didn't, then only 1 kid gets the reward. I gave both an opportunity to earn one... fair and square.

Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:" I'm not a fan of giving one kid something and not the other, if it comes down to it and say DS cleans ... [snip!] ... to get a reward, but no if one does something and the other doesn't the one who didn't do anything doesn't deserve a reward."

THANK U and i respect the begging u said that makes sense get both to earn a reward

Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:" I always make it to where they both get something, I give them both chances to "got the mile" which is ... [snip!] ... right away, I wait till later on to say "Alex you did this and it was good...and Axavier you did this and that was also good" ."

i agree there a hundred percent

I'm with you. I'd give them both the opportunity (tailoring it to each kid if necessary) and if only one kid earns it, only one kid gets the reward.

Quoting The ℰffin' D!™:"   But at the same time, D is 7 and T is 3... so D understands that my 3 year old doesn't understand ... [snip!] ... old doesn't understand why she doesn't get a reward when he does. I try to make both of them do something to earn a reward."

ya i agree wirh that to but these kids are 8 and the other almost 11

Quoting Cat Abbott:" I'm with you. I'd give them both the opportunity (tailoring it to each kid if necessary) and if only one kid earns it, only one kid gets the reward."

Thank god I am not alone what erks me is she will be 11 this year!!!! and still acts like she is 5, these kids are 8 and 10 they should know when they deserve something !!!

Well my daughter's only 2 and my son is 5 so there's a different system for each of them. They're "Rewarded" based on their abilities. And I NEVER use food as a treat unless it's for eating their dinner. I use a points system for them, they earn stars or money and then get a treat. It's far more diplomatic and teaches them monitary responsibility.

Quoting Noah_Jeffery:" ya i agree wirh that to but these kids are 8 and the other almost 11"

Was the girl with you that day?
If not, tell her that one day soon she can do something to earn a special reward just like her brother did.  

Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:" Well my daughter's only 2 and my son is 5 so there's a different system for each of them. They're "Rewarded" ... [snip!] ... for them, they earn stars or money and then get a treat. It's far more diplomatic and teaches them monitary responsibility."

I like that   Well i said icecream becuase he has been trouble latley and all week has been good and i said after dinner if u eat everything u can have some for helping me , but I respect what u say on that but just like I said before these kids are 8 and almost 11 , they should know better just my opoion I am sorry but i will never raise my son to expect something when he didnt earn it , if that makes sense

Quoting The ℰffin' D!™:" Was the girl with you that day? If not, tell her that one day soon she can do something to earn a special reward just like her brother did.  "

I DID before i gave him the icecream i explained to her why he got it and that when she helps me one day she can choose something she wants !! and she was she had the opportunity to help!! she was even asked .. so i dont feel bad at all and the fact she told her dad so she could get some... ya no

Quoting Noah_Jeffery:" I DID before i gave him the icecream i explained to her why he got it and that when she helps me ... [snip!] ... to help!! she was even asked .. so i dont feel bad at all and the fact she told her dad so she could get some... ya no "

I'm not sure that I understand what you mean exactly.

So you asked for her help, and she didn't want to help out.. but wanted the end reward like her brother? And then told the Dad that she was allowed to have some?

If so... then I wouldn't allow her to be rewarded either, with the way she acted.

My kids don't always get rewarded together. I try to make it that way, but someone always wants to rebel and think that they deserve something for nothing.