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thank you for the advice ladies.

I'm sorry, I know how much this hurts  

I'd have a talk with Nana, it seems she's allowing this to happen. She should tell your daughter to be nice... not play along with her being mean.

I'd be upset too, sorry you're dealing with this   have you talked to her about it when you're not around them? And maybe see if your SO will talk to his family to see if they might be doing anything to encourage this behavior. Does his family treat you poorly? She might be picking it up from them that it's okay to act like that around them.

Has your SO said anything about this? Try to talk to DD when the family isnt around.

Wow... I would be hurt and kind of pissed too. How is you're relationship with SO's family... like how do they treat you?

Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:" Wow... I would be hurt and kind of pissed too. How is you're relationship with SO's family... like how do they treat you? "

This.

Maybe Nana is being immature.

Quoting Regina George ♡:" I'm sorry, I know how much this hurts   I'd have a talk with Nana, it seems she's allowing this to happen. She should tell your daughter to be nice... not play along with her being mean. "

When Chloe treats me like this and SOs mom doesnt say anything, i feel like she is liking the fact that my own daughter is rejecting me for her.

If she is rude to me when the rest of the family is around, she will tell her to be nice. But if its just us, she stays quiet.

Quoting Jenna + 2 Beauties:" When Chloe treats me like this and SOs mom doesnt say anything, i feel like she is liking the fact that ... [snip!] ... If she is rude to me when the rest of the family is around, she will tell her to be nice. But if its just us, she stays quiet. "

She's encouraging it IMO. I'd definitely have a talk with her.

Quoting Thisperyears:" I'd be upset too, sorry you're dealing with this   have you talked to her about it when you're not around ... [snip!] ... behavior. Does his family treat you poorly? She might be picking it up from them that it's okay to act like that around them."

yes i have. But the fact that SOs mom told me my own daughter tells her secrets worries me to even say anything to Chloe, like she is going to go back and tell them.

SOs mom has never liked me. we always have drama. Its ALWAYS their fault. They do smurf and then blame it on me. I have considered more then once cutting them off because i get tired of it.

Quoting Regina George ♡:" She's encouraging it IMO. I'd definitely have a talk with her. "

I agree. I would tell her that it is a group effort for adults when it comes to raising children and you two should be working together, not her against you.

Quoting kelsey054:" Has your SO said anything about this? Try to talk to DD when the family isnt around."

nope. SO cant say anything to his family on behalf of me or our kids. Its sad.

I did when we got home. I asked her why would you try to make mommy feel bad and she replied "i just want to love you more then nana"

i dont even understand her response

Wow she acting very manipulative, Im a bit surprised considering shes so young.
I could and would not tolerate that behavior! My feelings would be really hurt but weather we where in a restraunt, home or at "nana's" she would be in timeout out so fast for such deliberately rude behavior. She needs to know she cant talk you that way.
I would also make sure to talk to her nana to make sure your both on the same page as far consequences go for such behavior. Your daughter needs to know her nana isnt okay with behavior like this either (weather she is or not), you need to ask her nana to tell her the behavior is not okay when she sees it (and especially not to encourage it).

Quoting Jenna + 2 Beauties:" yes i have. But the fact that SOs mom told me my own daughter tells her secrets worries me to even ... [snip!] ... fault. They do smurf and then blame it on me. I have considered more then once cutting them off because i get tired of it. "

Maybe have a talk with nana? I'd be pissed if someone was influencing my daughter like that.

Quoting Brendan&Bethany'sMom:" Wow... I would be hurt and kind of pissed too. How is you're relationship with SO's family... like how do they treat you? "

i was beyond hurt last week when SOs mom said what she said about secrets. I am hurt and also angry . There has been a lot of other little things like this.

I feel selfish thinking this but it makes me not want to go there anymore.

Quoting Daenerys™:" This. Maybe Nana is being immature."

she is so immature. i feel like im the only one who is seeing this. SO always has an excuse to not confront her. and im tired of doing it. Its his mom. i dont want to put up with her BS