re: Spicing up sex life?!

Quoting Miss Brittany:" Go to a sex shop. They have lots of fun stuff. Edible body paint is fun. Bullets. Dildos. Massage oils. Handcuffs. Blindfolds. Porn movies."

I have everything you just said D: I also have a sex candle!

Quoting TTCAirForcewifey:" I have everything you just said D: I also have a sex candle! "

you guys need some hardcore spicing...like, bdsm or something? LOL

Quoting 3LittleMonkeys:" you guys need some hardcore spicing...like, bdsm or something? LOL"

Oh yeah! Ball gags and leather! Whips and chains!

I thought I read in the OP that he wants to change up your schedule. If thats the case, my first bit of advice is to stop doing it to a schedule  

You can try sending him naughty messages and photos, preferrably do it when he cant act on them straight away, tease him a lil.
Give him head while he is driving
Just get naked when he least expects it (like the other day I asked my SO to fix the DVD player, when he turned around I was topless, lol, he grabbed me and headed straight for the bedroom!)
My fave position at the moment is me on my back, him on his side and our legs scissored if that makes sense
Make every thing a double entendre, like if he says sorry for something simple say "oh you will pay for that later" and give him a cheeky smile and wink...
LOL I love sex and sexiness, I have so many ideas  

Quoting Yellow Diamond:" I thought I read in the OP that he wants to change up your schedule. If thats the case, my first bit ... [snip!] ... "oh you will pay for that later" and give him a cheeky smile and wink... LOL I love sex and sexiness, I have so many ideas  "

ooooh, this is good! I agree with getting of a schedule. Just randomly doing it whenever is so hot!

Quoting Yellow Diamond:" I thought I read in the OP that he wants to change up your schedule. If thats the case, my first bit ... [snip!] ... "oh you will pay for that later" and give him a cheeky smile and wink... LOL I love sex and sexiness, I have so many ideas  "

OOO thank you! Yeah i'm thinking about waking him up tomorrow morning with a nice surprise!

Quoting Miss Brittany:" Oh yeah! Ball gags and leather! Whips and chains!"

OHHHH i got me a whip   i've used it on him once and he HATED it.. lol! I try to get him to spank me or even pull my hair.. but he won't do it anymore.

Quoting TTCAirForcewifey:" OHHHH i got me a whip   i've used it on him once and he HATED it.. lol! I try to get him to spank me or even pull my hair.. but he won't do it anymore."

LOL he sounds like the boring one! Doesnt like anal, doesnt like being whipped, wont pull your hair or spank you. Man needs to losen up   Does he know what he likes?

Quoting Yellow Diamond:" LOL he sounds like the boring one! Doesnt like anal, doesnt like being whipped, wont pull your hair or spank you. Man needs to losen up   Does he know what he likes?"

I just asked him what he likes and what stuff he likes me to do.. His reply "I don't know" -_-

Choking gets me turned on and my SO not choking like oh smurf im going to die. but while having sex he grabs my neck but I can still breathe.
Have you done that, like in the middle say choke me or something catch him off guard.

Yeah, and scheduling sex is not going to help with a sex life, a good one is spontaneous. Hard with having kids. Which I know because my sex life sucks now lol

We sound like the same person!!! My hsband wont even talk sex with me... last night was the first time in the 3 years we have been together that the sex was actually amazing. We got a vibrator... it was fun the first few times but now its just boring. We have done anal and he seems to like it... but its hard for me to get into, once were doing it I enjoy it. But its the getting there. Whenever I ask him what he wants he says "I dont know?" I have asked him on several occasions to think of one thing that he has always wanted... and I still haven't gotten an answer. I swear the ONLY reason we had sex last night was because I stood there naked and said... NOW. lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting TTCAirForcewifey:</b>" I wish i could have outside sex! but we live on a Air Force base! haha"</blockquote>




Outside sex is something my dh wants to try. I would but haven't had the chance lol. bc I want some wooded area. lol

Quoting emJ':" We sound like the same person!!! My hsband wont even talk sex with me... last night was the first time ... [snip!] ... haven't gotten an answer. I swear the ONLY reason we had sex last night was because I stood there naked and said... NOW. lol "

Well i'm always the one trying to have sex with him! he used to be crazy about me... wanted me ALLLLL the damn time, got aroused when he saw me (probably because we were long distance for a bit cause of the military) but now.. Its so hard to get him off of a video game. He said he hasn't been happy with me for about a month because i always nag about him not trying, he doesn't even spend that much time with me... we havent even been on a date in god knows how long, and he expects me to do EVERYTHING. Well yesterday we sat down and talked for like 5 hours about the things that are bothering me and him.. He finally got it through his head that its not me, its him. He tried to end our marriage over it. He kept changing crap, at first he said he isn't happy because we fight and i say mean things, then he said its just how he is, then he said its financial (We aren't struggling WHATSOEVER), then he said he just wanted me to be happy.. and that he is unmotivated to try to make me happy.. WTF is wrong with men.. I'm pretty hurt by the things he said, I cried all day yesterday. He told me he was going to change... So I hope he does because I love him..

Quoting Daniee:" Choking gets me turned on and my SO not choking like oh smurf im going to die. but while having sex he ... [snip!] ... going to help with a sex life, a good one is spontaneous. Hard with having kids. Which I know because my sex life sucks now lol"

I have tried.. He said he feels uncomfortable with that.

Tie him up or have him tie you up   then tease eachother, bc there is nothing the other person can do about it!