He's getting too comfortable w/ our sex life. (Vent)

So, we've been together for 2 years and are expecting a boy in April. He's getting too comfortable we're both sexual and have always had Busy schedules, granted I am pregnant sex isn't as easy as it use to be positions can become complicated. I've expressed that I need sex still and he says he does to however I'm the one always bringing it up. I'm starting to be a little resentful. I'm not being mean to him but I am feeling like I just don't want to be as nice or interested in what he says.... I'm just annoyed I need that type of intimacy, he knows that. Hopefully after out son is born it will change? Right now I'm just irratated. Thanks for letting me vent.

So you're upset because you want him to initiate sex every once in a while?

that has nothing to do with being "too comfortable"

you SHOULD initiate sex.... go down and start sucking his dick.. garuntee you will have sex. if you want it you need to put a little work into it. you sound like a whiney bitch honeslty.

Pretty much.... I've already told him that and things haven't really changed. I'm not going to beg for it either. I'm at the point where I'm done asking! Proper might think that's being stubborn, but I won't be a broken record and repeat myself. Hopefully after 2 weeks of no sex he'll know something's up. And when he does ask I'll just say I got tired of asking, or bringing it up.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" that has nothing to do with being "too comfortable" you SHOULD initiate sex.... go down and start sucking ... [snip!] ... garuntee you will have sex. if you want it you need to put a little work into it. you sound like a whiney bitch honeslty."

 

Pretty much. And good luck having sex very often after you have a baby. You gonna hold that against you baby and not be very interested in your kid? I mean yeah the first few months it's no issue. Get a mobile infant that you literally don't get to sit down for a moment until they're in bed and then you're in bed shortly after. You're not going to be getting laid much. I guarantee it.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" that has nothing to do with being "too comfortable" you SHOULD initiate sex.... go down and start sucking ... [snip!] ... garuntee you will have sex. if you want it you need to put a little work into it. you sound like a whiney bitch honeslty."

Slightly harsh pretty mama, but I agree with what you're saying about how it has nothing to do with comfort.

OP, he might be uncomfortable to want to initiate anything because you're pregnant. For some men it is difficult for them to have sex with their pregnant SO because it doesn't feel right to them, or because they are afraid they might hurt something, or just the thought of having sex while someone has a baby growing inside them freaks them out.

I would honestly recommend teasing the smurf out of him until he can't take it anymore.

<blockquote><b>Quoting shes*almost*one!:</b>" that has nothing to do with being "too comfortable" you SHOULD initiate sex.... go down and start sucking ... [snip!] ... garuntee you will have sex. if you want it you need to put a little work into it. you sound like a whiney bitch honeslty."</blockquote>

A whinny bitch huh? Wow! Way to supportive or try to relate there girlie! Sounds like you're an immature BITCH;) Trust me I put work into it I'm a Mother, a Full-time student, my house is clean, and my children are my priority and I still initiate sex!

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:</b>"   Pretty much. And good luck having sex very often after you have a baby. You gonna hold that ... [snip!] ... a moment until they're in bed and then you're in bed shortly after. You're not going to be getting laid much. I guarantee it."</blockquote>

What an immature thing to say that I suggesting that I would hold that againest my baby. Wow! I was just venting and a lot of people are being completely hateful. You think I'm being immature for saying I'm irritated somewhat resentful however you come back at me with something do completely ridiculous? Make sense, NOT!

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Dandelion Rapist:</b>" Slightly harsh pretty mama, but I agree with what you're saying about how it has nothing to do with ... [snip!] ... growing inside them freaks them out. I would honestly recommend teasing the smurf out of him until he can't take it anymore. "</blockquote>

Thank you for actually reading this and coming up with suggestions. I appreciate that! I am 7 months pregnant and me being so irritated with it could just be me being hormonal. It is our first child together and I've asked him if it freaks him out he says no, but honestly I know somewhere in there it probably does bother him on some level.

You're welcome.

I know how you feel. Trust me, some guys just don't feel right having sex with their pregnant SO. (I can't say I would feel comfortable after a while) and honestly, as it gets more physically uncomfortable for YOU, it's going to start getting more uncomfortable for HIM, too. <3 hope it gets better, hon.

Quoting Jennifer Bolen:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Dandelion Rapist:</b>" Slightly harsh pretty mama, but ... [snip!] ... asked him if it freaks him out he says no, but honestly I know somewhere in there it probably does bother him on some level."

It might not freak him out. He might just not have a desire to because it feels weird to him. Or he might even feel guilty.

When I was pregnant with my now 4 year old daughter, I was always horny. I couldn't get enough sex. Poor Aaron's balls were in pain because of how much I was having him put out.  

Anyways, he went to the store and bought me a vibrator after a while. (He couldn't take it anymore.. He was literally out of commission).

I told him (Jokingly) I couldn't use it because studies show it can cause the baby to develop a stutter.   Of course he didn't believe it, but we had a good laugh about it.

Quoting Jennifer Bolen:" <blockquote><b>Quoting shes*almost*one!:</b>" that has nothing to do with being "too ... [snip!] ... work into it I'm a Mother, a Full-time student, my house is clean, and my children are my priority and I still initiate sex!"

yes -- you are absolutely being a whiney bitch. after this response to me, i have a pretty good idea how you treat your boyfriend... im not surprised he doesnt want to have sex with you.. take a look in the mirror. the metaporical mirror, before you start crying about me calling you "ugly" ----

so really sweetie... just DO IT... dont complain about him "not wanting" it... he's a man, you're a woman.. susposedly you're only ones for eachother. shouldnt be a hard one (wowwww awesome PUN!).

i dont care about your student status, or the state of your home. has absolutely nothing to do with this conversation. are your trying to "brag"? if so, its a super lame attempt.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" yes -- you are absolutely being a whiney bitch. after this response to me, i have a pretty good idea ... [snip!] ... of your home. has absolutely nothing to do with this conversation. are your trying to "brag"? if so, its a super lame attempt."

You are feeling feisty tonight, aren't you?

<blockquote><b>Quoting shes*almost*one!:</b>" yes -- you are absolutely being a whiney bitch. after this response to me, i have a pretty good idea ... [snip!] ... of your home. has absolutely nothing to do with this conversation. are your trying to "brag"? if so, its a super lame attempt."</blockquote>



Seriously, calling me ugly and lame? My profile isn't a picture a onesie doll, its a picture of my me. So I obviously have nothing to hide nor be ashamed of. I've never in my life have been called ugly, or have told that I complain. This is a sight for women, not immature, abusive, lame ass lil girls who have nothing better to do than that ish. Seriously its GIRLS like you that give women a bad reputation of being caddy and bitchy towards other women. There's a thing called being and another thing called grace you should look them up! A real women would give positive feedback and not be a total bitch! Women that call other women ugly or always have somethig negative to say about other women do it because their unhappy with themselves.