I had DS 2.5 weeks ago and during.the.day I'm fine but at night when he wakes up and and refuses.to go sleep in his bed I end up crying for hours. It's just so hard for me at night. I end.up thinking that having another baby was a huge mistake and that makes me feel bad because I love him so much but he's not my favorite person during the night. I feel like I'm doing this all in my own. DH works 15 hour shifts from 11am-2am so he's never around to help most days and he needs his sleep at night so I get no help then either. Not long ago I was bawling my eyes out because I couldn't get DS to sleep and I know DH was awake and he didn't offer any support or anything. I rub on the back and a 'you can do this' would have been enough for me but instead he just.rolled over and pretended he.didn't hear me crying. I guess I just feel like a terrible mom because nights are tough and having two kids with one being a baby isn't as easy as having one kid. If u could just nap during the day with DS it would be so much easier but I have a 4.year old too. Most days she will let me take an hour nap while she watch's a.movie but I need several naps! Please tell me I'm not crazy and that this is normal...
Oh Hun, it's normal and I know exactly how you feel. DH has never helped me at night and that was always the hardest time for me too. DS used to throw a fit every night around 12 and it would last for at least an hour and nothing I did would help, then he'd wake up every hour to breastfeed and it was terrible in the begining when he was having a hard time latching and my breast hurt. I think I cried every night for the first 6 weeks. It was hard but it got better. Your not a terrible mom and you can do it!
I only have one kid. He's 7 weeks old. I know how you feel at night though. I feel like a single parent most days and my bf, son's dad, is here next to me. He does stuff during the day when I have to work. But if I'm home, I have to do everything. He gets irritated if I ask him to help with something as simple as making a bottle or getting a diaper. He won't help feed or change.
He helped one night when our son was screaming and I did everything, fed, changed, burped, held, everything. My bf held him, changed him again and rocked him. He stopped crying and went to sleep. But that was like the only night he helped and he only did it cause he was tired of the screaming that went on for almost 3 hours, he would not stop screaming. I ended up bawling that night. Completely broke down. He was only like a week or 2 old then.
Tonight my son was up from atleast 4pm-3am almost straight, with like a 5min nap. He would not go to sleep and stay asleep.
There are nights, and days, where I wish I didn't have a kid. Cause the crying and screaming can be unbarable. And there are days when I just feel like I really need sleep but son's awake and won't sleep.