feel obsessed with him

Long story short..I am pregnant with my first, my childs father is 24 I am a lot older than him which is one of the reasons I did not want anything serious with him before, we have like a great friendship with sex involved some of you ladies might understand idk  

But I am madly in love with my unborn babies father   scared to tell him I am pregnant.. he is young don't know what he will say =[ or think

I am really hoping we will be together but doubt it for some reason idk just terrified feel so lonely lately and want him around have to force myself to not text him or call him

feels terrible

Tell him how you feel,he might just feel the same way!

Quoting κατι:" Tell him how you feel,he might just feel the same way!"

yeah just fear of rejection haha the worse kind of rejection   where he just does not even want to come around or be involved

I doubt he would be that heartless but this is just not how I thought things would do between us everrrrrr

<blockquote><b>Quoting κατι:</b>" Tell him how you feel,he might just feel the same way!"</blockquote>




 

You will never know until you put your feelings out there. And either way you need to tell him you're pregnant...it wouldn't be fair to him if you didn't. I'm 5 years older than my baby's dad...he's only 22. We have a lot of hard times but we survive  

were you on BC? how did you just end up pregnant?

Quoting mommyonedaymaybe:" were you on BC? how did you just end up pregnant?"

no was not on birth control at the time always thought I could not get pregnant..

Quoting OldermommaIguess:" no was not on birth control at the time always thought I could not get pregnant.."

then you were trying to get pregnant by him   tell him you are pregnant,tbh the age difference will never allow you two to be together. too steep of a difference.

The longer you wait to tell him about his child, the harder it will be for him to handle when you do.

Quoting mommyonedaymaybe:" then you were trying to get pregnant by him   tell him you are pregnant,tbh the age difference will never allow you two to be together. too steep of a difference."

NO I DID NOT.. when you reach a certain age it may be stupid to some but you just start to think after all those years that you really can not get pregnant I am old hunny.. was going into menopause according to my hormones you would never know by my looks but haha really never though I was capable of getting pregnant, have not used BC in years but used methods to avoid possible pregnancies no one was trying.

Quoting Tara Howell-Straight:" The longer you wait to tell him about his child, the harder it will be for him to handle when you do. "

yeah I know just hard   hopefully sometime soon I can tell him recently I have been avoiding him.

<blockquote><b>Quoting OldermommaIguess:</b>" NO I DID NOT.. when you reach a certain age it may be stupid to some but you just start to think after ... [snip!] ... I was capable of getting pregnant, have not used BC in years but used methods to avoid possible pregnancies no one was trying."</blockquote>



Don't let her get to you...a lot of women on here can be bitches...comes with all the estrogen and hormones flying around lol

Quoting ~Raylan's Mama~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting OldermommaIguess:</b>" NO I DID NOT.. when you reach a certain ... [snip!] ... Don't let her get to you...a lot of women on here can be bitches...comes with all the estrogen and hormones flying around lol"

oh shut up, the boy is young she should have known better than this.

You should tell him how you feel and tell him about being pregnant. He's 24, not 18. He'll probably act like a mature adult and possibly be even happy to be having a kid. If you wait awhile to tell him, he may be hurt that you waited so long and feel like you think of him as an immature child.

"The boy is young" seriously?? He isn't a boy! 24 is a man! 24 isn't young! 20 is young. 24 is starting to get old, getting closer to middle age. Most people start families at 24. My dad was married at 23, I think most of my uncles were too. Except my one uncle I think was younger. Cause I think he got married before my dad and my dads the oldest out of 4 boys. And another uncle got married in his early 20's then divorced (I think they wanted different things in life.) And got remarried at 30 and had his first kid a year later, married in may, 2011 had kid following year in aug, 2012.

How would she have known better if she believed she was entering metapause. She believed she couldn't have children and she said she was doing other things to not become pregnant.

Quoting Tay L:" You should tell him how you feel and tell him about being pregnant. He's 24, not 18. He'll probably ... [snip!] ... entering metapause. She believed she couldn't have children and she said she was doing other things to not become pregnant."

middle age is 40-50 lol what are you talking about lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommyonedaymaybe:</b>" middle age is 40-50 lol what are you talking about lol"</blockquote>



Since when is it 40? I've always heard 30-35. Unless that's just the 90's deffinition of middle age... I thought you hit metapause around 40-50, thought middle age was before that. (Friends mom is 41 and hitting metapause, coworker is in 40's has hit metapause.)