terrible twos at 1 yr, help!

So Leo now is starting to REALLY strop when he doesnt get his way, but nothing seems to work, the frim NO thing does nothing, my hubs idea of a tap on the hand does nothing either, and time out jusdt causes him to scream more!

i feel so so bad because he constantly wants me to lift him but i dont wanna give in or thats me, hell know he can wind mummy around his finger

any ideas/ experiences ladies?

on another note, he got shoes and could walk in them straight away!! yay!

Tell him you understand that he is mad, sad, or whatever he is feeling. I think that most of the time kids think that you don't understand. Say to him "I know that you are feeling mad or sad because you want me to pick you up, buy you are a big boy now and can stand." It will reenforce that you are listening when he is upset.

My son is like this. Especially when he believes we haven't been paying enough attention to him. The meltdowns are the worst. I can see signs of the fit before they start so I can kind of head them off right away by using distraction.So by avoiding the fit I dont have to deal with it. When I can't stop thefit thoughmy husband or myselfwill remove himfrom the rest of the family and tell him that he can join us again when he stopsbehaving the way he is. Whatever you decide to do good luck because I know it's not easy.

thanks ladies  

he knows im too soft, im doomed!!!! lol

BE CONSISTANT!! That's the only way you'll get through!! I work at a daycare with 1 to 18 month olds. They always want us to hold them (some more than others) but you just have to be consistant and tell him that he's a big boy and he can stand on his own, then walk away and ignore it for a little bit, and then remind him again. Soon he'll get the point, and become able to play on his own, and self soothe! If he knows that you'll give in after 5 min of screaming... then every time he wants something, he'll scream for 5 min to get what he wants. Kids are smart, so you just have to be consistant with them!! Good luck!