housework vs sex

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/sideshow/want-more-sex-survey-says-stop-helping-chores-213917047.html


No good deed goes unpunished.

That famous phrase from Clare Booth Luce apparently applies to married men, according to a new study that finds men who help with the housework tend to have less sex.
The University of Washington research, published Wednesday in the American Sociological Review, suggests that heterosexual couples have more “sexual encounters” when each partner takes on traditional gender roles.
“Where the male is doing the male tasks and the female is doing the female tasks, those are the couples (who) are having more sex,” UW Associate Professor of Sociology and study co-author Julia Brines said in an interview with the Toronto Star.
You can find a PDF copy of the study at the bottom of Brines’ UW page.
The study had some other interesting findings. For instance, twice as much time is spent on “female” chores (34 hours) each week than on tasks more typically considered “male” (17 hours).
Couples who participated in the study, most of whom split some of the "female" chores, reported having about five “sexual encounters” each month on average. But in those homes where the man stuck to his 17 hours of dude duties, the couples had 1.6 more sexual encounters per month.
Do the math: The female in the relationship is taking on 68 more hours of housework per month than the male is in exchange for about two sexual encounters.
“If the activity is coded as masculine or feminine and it expresses ideas about what makes the opposite sex interesting, attractive, alluring, mysterious, that seems to be related to sexual activity and possibly sexual desire,” Brines tells the Star.

The data was based on information taken from 4,500 couples polled as part of the U.S. National Survey of Families and Households, conducted between 1992 and 1994.
More recent studies on married couples and sexuality roughly match up in terms of the number of sexual encounters. A 2005 study by the National Opinion Research Center found that married couples have sex on average about 66 times per year, slightly more than once per week. Interestingly, the survey’s director, Tom Smith, points out that despite all the humorous anecdotes suggesting otherwise, married couples have sex more frequently than their single counterparts.
But with all of the changes in gender roles, and presumably gender equality, over the past two decades, does the UW study’s information still hold up?
It does, according to Brines.
“It’s not what it was 50 years ago; there was a lot of change in the division of household labor in the '70s,” Brines tells the Star. “But the pace of change started to slow down in the '80s, and by the mid-1990s it kind of remained stuck and you’re pretty much at the same point.”




Do you agree or disagree, and why or why not?

I do the vast majority of the housework and I always have (whether I was working or SAHM). We've lived together for around 7 years. He does help with some things if I'm not feeling well or whatever, like he'll do the dishes or vacuum. I think I could see how doing "female" chores could make a dude feel not so masculine and not up to the job of performing but I haven't seen any correlation between the two in my personal sex life. Although typically when he helps out I'm sick anyway and not up to sex. I guess it would depend more on how the dude was raised up. If he was raised in a traditional household where his dad sat down and drank tea while his mum cooked, cleaned, dusted, slaved over the stove then sure. But if he was raised in a more progressive household then I doubt doing chores would have any effect on his dick.

 

if a guy came over here and did my dishes and laundry, he'd be smurfed every night.

Seriously.

I don't know if I agree or disagree, per se...

But I sure give it up more when he does more work around the house.

Also.... I'd be curious to know in how many of these situations the person doing the majority of the housework was the one deciding to have less sex, male or female, or if it was generally the man pushing for more sex when he didn't have to do as much housework, and the ratio of working/not working.... etc. I think there's probably more to it than housework alone, is my point. haha

Okay i read it. My SO does housework with me,when he gets off work without me asking. We still have alot of sex. So i disagree.

Quoting The Doctor:" I don't know if I agree or disagree, per se... But I sure give it up more when he does more work around ... [snip!] ... and the ratio of working/not working.... etc. I think there's probably more to it than housework alone, is my point. haha"

some of the comments are quite interesting to ... like how many of these households were traditional households where the women would just view sex as another household chore?

disagree. id want to have sex more if he did houswork. its sexy and helpful. i wouldnt be as tired either

Quoting Ravey Candyass:" disagree. id want to have sex more if he did houswork. its sexy and helpful. i wouldnt be as tired either"

 

Quoting Destiel:" some of the comments are quite interesting to ... like how many of these households were traditional households where the women would just view sex as another household chore?"

Yeah, that's kinda where my mind went. Like... in the households that the women was expected and consistently did the majority of the housework-- was the man still assuming he should get laid X amount of times per week?

If the man was doing more housework, was there any correlation to simply being tired at the end of the day and not pursuing sex as often?

It'd be interesting to see a "traditional" household and a "non-traditional" (in this sense) get switched for a few months and see what happened to the amount of sex.

Quoting Ravey Candyass:" disagree. id want to have sex more if he did houswork. its sexy and helpful. i wouldnt be as tired either"

!!!

I disagree. Growing up there weren't many gender specific chores. My dad vacuumed and did dishes and cleaned bathrooms. He didn't do laundry. And my mom helped with yard work and stuff.
When my husband helps out around the house he gets more from me in the bedroom because I am not as exhausted and we have more us time at night. I do the majority of the housework being a SAHM but we both live in the home and I need help.

my hub and and i fit that description. i wouldn't make him wash dishes and he wouldn't make me change a tire. i don't like men who cry or act feminine. we have sex 4-5 times a week.

Quoting Ravey Candyass:" disagree. id want to have sex more if he did houswork. its sexy and helpful. i wouldnt be as tired either"

  

to be honest, id be turned off if hubs did house work. hed be turned off if i fixed the car. i guess im old fashioned.