Quoting Jennybananna:" If she is getting a spanking I make sure my hand is open and its not hard. You never hear that "smack" ... [snip!] ... rarely gets one but when she does it is usually very effective in correcting the behavior then we sit down and talk about it. "
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" So, in your opinion, it doesn't need to hurt to make an impression and be effective?"
Quoting Summer+[two]:" this is definitely true its more of an emotional thing than about the pain that it causes."
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" Are you trying to actually hurt him with it as punishment? Or just.get his attention? Because I have found that clapping works to get my LO's attention."
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" So, in your opinion, it doesn't need to hurt to make an impression and be effective?"Absolutely not. With my daughter its more of an attention grabber and she knows if she gets a spanking mommy or daddy means business. Sometimes just a simple if this continues you will get a spanking works. I admit I lost my temper once and I spanked her pretty hard. Her and I both cried and I told her I was very sorry and that it was very wrong for mommy to hurt her. I will never spank if I dont feel I can control myself. I will walk away and count then come back.
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" What if there is no emotional reaction or "scare" if you will to a spank that causes no pain? It doesn't phase him."
Quoting brodyzmom:" I hold his hands and make him turn around. Although, I can't remember the last time I spanked him. Now just the mere threat makes him straighten up."
Quoting Jude ♥ JGL:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:</b>" No, I'm not trying to hurt him. ... [snip!] ... there is an enjoyable event close by because that doesn't phase him either."</blockquote> Have you tried whispering?"