I'm so sorry. I experienced that same nightmare last year. Worst day of my life. I wasn't quite as far along, though. I know that nothing I say can help with the pain, but if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to PM me.
I am so sorry for your loss That is the most worst feeling ever! I lost mine at 8 weeks the day before Christmas Eve in 08. Had a D&C on New Years Day. But I will tell you this much the D&C was the best thing I could have done. It does not hurt they give you a spinal and some meds to half knock you out. It's done in minutes. I was in and out the same day. Good Luck Hun but a d&c will be good for fertility most bounce back pregnant really quick after having it done. I waited 4 years but I had other stuff going on.
one of my best friends went through this a little over a year ago, they went to find out the gender and found out they lost their little girl. It's very heartbreaking and I think the only thing that will help is time. lots of time and the supports of family and friends.
sorry for your loss hun I went thru the same thing in dec. of 09 i was 15 weeks and the baby measured 10 weeks and had to have the d&c done ...you dont feel anything when you have the d &c they knock you out for the most part