i feel like a smurffy parent

so i have been told my son most likely has mild autisum but they want to do three months of speech with him just to make sure..

but i have started understand and being ok with it.

well why i feel like a smurffy parent.

i have no clue what games to play with him to help him or what to do.
my outlook on things have changed.
when he does something bad should i put him on time out or should i help him in other ways.

when he throws a huge fit and he doesnt stop do i help him cope to calm down or do i let it run its course.

eh i am so new to this and it makes me feel like a bad mom.

Quoting Tea Bag McGee:" so i have been told my son most likely has mild autisum but they want to do three months of speech with ... [snip!] ... do i help him cope to calm down or do i let it run its course. eh i am so new to this and it makes me feel like a bad mom. "

You aren't a bad mom. This is a learning process for you as well. You will have to learn with him and start fresh together. Gather your confidence and know you can do this!! You got this. ~hugs

i am having the same problem, gd luck

I have a nephew with autism and his dr said to his mom to play memory games, like those cards you turn over and try to match, and def put in a time out when misbehaving.

Quoting Tara Howell-Straight:" I have a nephew with autism and his dr said to his mom to play memory games, like those cards you turn over and try to match, and def put in a time out when misbehaving."

Not to be rude but this is terrible advice. She doesn't know his receptive language, and the kid has (I assume) communication issues,and I'd darn well throw a fit if no-one understood me.

dont know much about the subject but i would imagine you know him best. this diagnosis does not change what you have been dealing with since he was born. you probably have already customized your parenting to his personality, just by working through what is most effective for him...like all parents. no reason to feel badly. maybe try to think of situations where it just didnt get better no matter what you tried, and talk to the doc about that.

i could be wrong, like i said i dont know much about all this but i still dont think you should feel crappy-just learn as you go, kwim?

Ten. Characters.

I finally have time to really respond. You aren't a smurffy parent, parenting a kid with communication issues is hard and unchartered territory for you (and is/was me). I have learned through 30 hours of therapy with 5 different therapists these things-take em or leave em, your choice. They don't play with things because sometimes they just don't know how, and they can't ask how. It isn't that they aren't interested mostly but just anxious. Expose them to different plays like sensory play (finger paints, rice in bins, textures). Offer small jigsaw puzzles with only 1 piece missing and show him how to finish.Watch him-see what he tends to like, wether it is jumping like my guy (for 3-5 hours a day ugh) or leafing through books and just sit or stand by him commmentating-basically interupt his play often because this will eventually open them up to sharing their interests.
Discipline wise, I discipline (or rather have learned to discipline with the help of therapists) very differently than my other two typical kids. Ignore attention seeking behavior -like whining (hard I fricken know my friend) reinforce good behavior with praise or reward, and redirect when a meltdown ensues. I also find that if younow what your kid does want (or doesn't) it is important to acknowledge their needs wants dislikes. For instance "Buddy I know you want that cookie , I know you really want it, but it isn't available" and promptly redirect even if it means singing and standing on your head. I have spent many an hour , prior to my help, putting my kid in time outs repeatedly to no avail-it is futile, really until they have some sort of communication down pat. I have to pull patience out of my ass some day, but all the hard work we are doing is really paying off-stay strong Mama.

Quoting mama3trish:" I finally have time to really respond. You aren't a smurffy parent, parenting a kid with communication ... [snip!] ... pat. I have to pull patience out of my ass some day, but all the hard work we are doing is really paying off-stay strong Mama."

thank you this helped A LOT. i am going to try this all and see what works. this is awesome advice.

Quoting Tea Bag McGee:" thank you this helped A LOT. i am going to try this all and see what works. this is awesome advice. "

I'm happy to help-if you have any more questions just PM me.