Probably shouldn have said that. TMI ALERT.

So, we have a sexless marriage. Well maybe not entirely. He rarely wants it and it has to be when he wants it or not at all as I always have my advances shot down. It's too the point where I don't feel confident when it comes to being "sexy" or trying to seduce him. So I told him I would never do this but it feels like the only way I would ever get intimacy is if I found it somewhere else. Don't know how to fix this. I

Quoting Mommeh2bee:" So, we have a sexless marriage. Well maybe not entirely. He rarely wants it and it has to be when he ... [snip!] ... do this but it feels like the only way I would ever get intimacy is if I found it somewhere else. Don't know how to fix this. I"

word. same boat. how long have you been married?

That does not seem like a very healthy relationship, I am sorry  Idk what the f I would do if I was married and my husband would like that. Actually yea I do know, I would just leave his dusty ass lol.

If he cared about your happiness he'd at least try.

Have you talked to him to find out why he feels this way? That would be my first step.

I would talk to him about. See why he is not into it. Maybe his feeling unattractive too!

Only answer I get is he's "tired" every....single......time

Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:" Have you talked to him to find out why he feels this way? That would be my first step."

  This.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommeh2bee:</b>" Only answer I get is he's "tired" every....single......time"</blockquote>




So either do it yourself or let him know that you have needs that aren't being met.

He should at least make an effort.

Quoting Piyo Piyo:" I would talk to him about. See why he is not into it. Maybe his feeling unattractive too! "

I agree.

Quoting Mommeh2bee:" Only answer I get is he's "tired" every....single......time"

You need to tell him how you feel -- or have you? He needs to realize how big of an issue this is to you.

My ex was like that, every time I tried to initiate it he would just roll away or fake being asleep, the only time we did anything was when HE wanted it which was maybe once every 2 weeks, once a week was when he had someone sleeping over and he felt risky lol I was to afraid to talk to him because I was afraid of the truth, I then found out he was cheating on me. That was the one and only time I will be in a sexless relationship. Has he always been like that the whole relationship?

Quoting Lin Brown:" My ex was like that, every time I tried to initiate it he would just roll away or fake being asleep, ... [snip!] ... on me. That was the one and only time I will be in a sexless relationship. Has he always been like that the whole relationship?"

were there any other signs he was cheating? i worry about this but he swears up and down (of course) that's not the case. and since it has been going on so long it makes me doubt it. but there is always that tiny portion of my brain that beleives it is the only answer.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Angelface:</b>" were there any other signs he was cheating? i worry about this but he swears up and down (of course) ... [snip!] ... going on so long it makes me doubt it. but there is always that tiny portion of my brain that beleives it is the only answer."</blockquote>




The only other signs he showed was he would always go hang out with his friends and have them take him to see the girls, the only way I had found that out was because I became good friends with all of his friends and they told me everything he was doing, and he would walk out of the room as soon as the phone rang and would try and hide the screen when ever he got a text, when his phone was off and he started using mine while I was living with him is I would put my phone on the charger next to me and one night I woke up and found it in his pocket and when I looked at the messages there were multiple messages from girls included and tit pic and he would always come up with the excuse that she sent it to the wrong person and would get really pissed off and defensive about the whole thing. I dealt with it for a year and a half until my mom introduced me to my now husband and I thank god every day I left him

Quoting Lin Brown:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dr. Angelface:</b>" were there any other signs he was cheating? ... [snip!] ... thing. I dealt with it for a year and a half until my mom introduced me to my now husband and I thank god every day I left him"

wow.

yea my DH never really shows any signs of anything. he works ALOT though.