Quoting aea&jeb:" i'm sorry to hear about your loss? how far along were you? i lost my son at 20 weeks and 6 days...were ... [snip!] ... fact that this is your second loss could have taken a toll on you and made this one more difficult to cope with. hugs for you!"I beg to differ. The fact that I miscarried early on and never got to hear a heartbeat or see an ultrasound made it harder for me to cope. I had nothing to remember my baby by while many other members in my support group had these beautiful memorial boxes and pictures and footprints and ultrasounds. I had nothing to show for my loss and felt so empty always wondering what our baby would look like. When I had DD I was heartbroken that I never got to experience the things I did with DD with the baby I lost and the father of the baby I lost. I always wonder what my other baby would've looked like, what would their personality be like. Sometimes when DD stares up at nothing and smiles and coos I think maybe my LO I miscarried is visiting her. (Crazy I know but for me it's a comforting thought.)
Quoting Miracle_Mommy 2012: Sometimes when DD stares up at nothing and smiles and coos I think maybe my LO I miscarried is visiting her.
Quoting Kari Corrupted:" This isn't crazy AT ALL.....in fact, I believe it's 100% possible."
Quoting Miracle_Mommy 2012:" I beg to differ. The fact that I miscarried early on and never got to hear a heartbeat or see an ultrasound ... [snip!] ... and smiles and coos I think maybe my LO I miscarried is visiting her. (Crazy I know but for me it's a comforting thought.)"i didn't mean that you don't feel hurt. i just meant that at 6 weeks a lot of women don't even know they are pregnant so it just seems like it could be slightly easier. but then again, i don't know. i have only experienced 2nd tri loss. i do know that at about 9 weeks i thought i was miscarrying with my second pregnancy (after my 2nd tri loss) and was so very upset. however, i was 9 weeks and had already had two ultrasounds (high risk pregnancy) and saw the heartbeat. i'm not saying it doesn't hurt and i honestly can't relate to an early miscarriage so i am not saying that what i say is right but i do know that for me having contractions, having my water break, having to have an epidural, having to deliver a baby that i would never get to take home, and all the jazz that comes with a regular pregnancy was absolutely traumatizing.
Quoting aea&jeb:" i didn't mean that you don't feel hurt. i just meant that at 6 weeks a lot of women don't even know they ... [snip!] ... a baby that i would never get to take home, and all the jazz that comes with a regular pregnancy was absolutely traumatizing."
Quoting Kari Corrupted:" This makes me hope the one we lost will visit the one I hopefully get to have in May "Have you read the book Heaven is For Real? There is a part of the book where the little boy goes to Heaven and he meets his sister (His mom never ever mentioned having a miscarriage to him and she had an early miscarriage and never knew the gender.) Reading that book gave me a lot of peace. It doesn't matter if you are a Christian or not or if you really believe everything the little boy claims to have happened. It's sitting their drinking it in thinking, "What if that were true?" What if my baby can see everything I do from up above? There was a certain gender nuetral name I picked for the baby I lost and the Nurse that delivered DD had that name. Everyday since I gave birth to DD I have heard the name I picked for my LO that I miscarried at least once a day. Mostly like on every t.v. show I watch someone is named that. It seems like it's my LO's way of saying they are watching over and reminding me not to forget them.