re: For military wives...ugh I didn't want to even ask

I am in the military. My husband and I got into it and didn't talk for a while. But I will say that I started saying everyday and we started arguing. For me it was hard to see my family every day on the computer bc I couldn't physically be with them and I started to get depressed. So we limited contact to 1 time a weeks so it would not be so hard on both of us and plus I was extremely busy and the time difference was rough on us.

Quoting KiKi Dee:" I am in the military. My husband and I got into it and didn't talk for a while. But I will say that I ... [snip!] ... 1 time a weeks so it would not be so hard on both of us and plus I was extremely busy and the time difference was rough on us."

This is really good to know. Especially from a woman. I always feel like if I were the one gone I would want to talk everyday, and that only men would be the other way. Thanks for the insight!

Quoting Juggernog-aholic:" He is probably just trying to cool off. Or he doesn't want to fight or something. I know when DH was ... [snip!] ... to contact family. I would just email him and tell him you love him and that when he is ready to talk again, you will be there."

 
This...DH and I got into a really nasty fight once and the first thing I did when he logged off was write an email telling him that he didn't have to reply but that I loved him, I was giving him his space, and that he could write back when he's ready.

OP, he may not be away on missions but that doesn't take from the mental exhaustion that comes from being over there, he might just be avoiding another fight or not wanting to be put in a position where he says something stupid. When they're over there, they deal with things differently, and sometimes it might not make sense to you.

Quoting KiKi Dee:" I am in the military. My husband and I got into it and didn't talk for a while. But I will say that I ... [snip!] ... 1 time a weeks so it would not be so hard on both of us and plus I was extremely busy and the time difference was rough on us."

My husband has asked us to do that on a deployment before too. I cant imagine what y'all go through emotionally being gone from us for so long.

Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:"   This...DH and I got into a really nasty fight once and the first thing I did when he logged off ... [snip!] ... something stupid. When they're over there, they deal with things differently, and sometimes it might not make sense to you."

Ugh I just want this to be over already. It wasn't like this last deployment. I hate that he has to go through all this.

Quoting lovinthem04:" Didn't really want to post about this, but it's eating away at me   If you have been through a deployment, ... [snip!] ... he got offline because he was mad at you, would you think the reason he hasn't contacted you since is because he is still mad?"

My husband had a 12 month deployment in Afghanistan last year. And I know how you are feeling.. sometimes we would end our convos on a not so great note and I wouldn't hear from him for days.. but this also happend when we didn't end things on a bad note. Honestly he's probably really busy... or else internet could be down.. phones shut off... there are so many reasons why. I know it's hard not to feel anxious but seriously pray about it and make sure you write him a loving email to come back to so if he can check he gets it. I hope he can contact you soon... I know sometimes mine would go for a month or so with no contact for dif reasons ... it's part of deployment. <3 *hugs*

Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" My husband had a 12 month deployment in Afghanistan last year. And I know how you are feeling.. sometimes ... [snip!] ... I know sometimes mine would go for a month or so with no contact for dif reasons ... it's part of deployment. <3 *hugs*"

Thanks so much! It just bothers me cause he has been online, just not to talk to me, and the other guys are online now. So I know it's not down and hasn't been. I have been writing him and telling him I love him and I hope to hear from him soon and that's basically it. I'm sure I am taking this the wrong way, and the pregnancy hormones/ end of a 12 month deployment hormones are getting to me now hahaha

Quoting lovinthem04:" Thanks so much! It just bothers me cause he has been online, just not to talk to me, and the other guys ... [snip!] ... I am taking this the wrong way, and the pregnancy hormones/ end of a 12 month deployment hormones are getting to me now hahaha"

Yeah I can understand that being upsetting...   I hope he gets in contact with you soon!! Him being gone, plus ending a convo on a bad note and not hearing from him for awhile and being preggo? Lots of stress! Maybe he's been super busy or maybe he needs space? Either way I understand it being very stressful and dissapointing.
I know it takes awhile to send care packages but maybe put together a super special one for him? That kept me busy someitmes when I was doing that stuff for him and got my mind off things.

Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" Yeah I can understand that being upsetting...   I hope he gets in contact with you soon!! Him being ... [snip!] ... a super special one for him? That kept me busy someitmes when I was doing that stuff for him and got my mind off things."

His mail is cut off. He comes home really soon. So there isn't any way to send him anything  

Quoting lovinthem04:" His mail is cut off. He comes home really soon. So there isn't any way to send him anything  "

Ohhh I see. Well yay for him coming home really soon!!!!
Hoping he contacts you soon! Blah I remember how stressful deployment could be esp when ending convos like that...