re: Sexting, Do Ya?

Quoting lil*Mama*Bear™:" We touch a lot. And at almost 3yr together are finally getting over the power struggle stage and dropping ... [snip!] ... play on the floor together and wrestle. I think that helps keep it alive more than anything. We have always been very playful."

DH and I are also very playful. We couldn't fall asleep last night because we kept doing small little pestering things to one another.  

I rarely ever text DH and we never sext or send pictures. The last time we did that was like back before we moved in together and we have been together for 5 years (lived together for 4, married for almost 3). I don't know...he just hasn't ever asked for pics, tried to text me anything 'dirty' or sent me any pictures and I think he would think I was nuts if I just up and sent him something like that. I wouldn't mind it, but he just doesn't seem like the kind, I don't really know how to explain it, but I do kinda wish he was more into stuff like that. Hell, I just wish he was more intimate in general.   We do have sex pretty regularly...but it's all pretty plain and boring now.  

What other types of things do you all do?

DH and I dance together probably daily, he gives me countless ass grabs, we wrestle and kiss, we take a ton of baths together, nightly massages, snuggles all night, he always has me sit on his lap so he can wrap his arms around me. My favorite- each night when we cook family dinner together (another good moment for passion) he is always singing some song and pulls me into him and I just bury my face into his chest and breathe him in. I love his hugs soooooo much.

We like to sext too. We also just do little things daily for one another like hell leave me a note if he leaves for work before I'm up, or when I go grocery shopping I get him something special for lunch or his favorite kind of juice. Also, we have a date night in our house once a week. We make sure we both are around on Tuesday nights so we can stay up and order take out and watch a movie or listen to a new record. We like to cook together and we call several times a day to say hi or tell a joke. We've been together 7 1/2 years, married for 3 1/2 and on our third pregnancy and I still get butterflies when I see his name on my caller ID.

<blockquote><b>Quoting sassy chef:</b>" I read a study that said the "butterflies" tend to fade after year #2...so, I'd say you're still in the homey moon stage  "</blockquote>



Two years?

In my past relationships I think they usually faded within 6 months.
DH is my soulmate, though, and I still get butterflies everyday. Just intense feelings of passion, happiness, and contentment.

Quoting Safka9973:" <blockquote><b>Quoting sassy chef:</b>" I read a study that said the "butterflies" ... [snip!] ... DH is my soulmate, though, and I still get butterflies everyday. Just intense feelings of passion, happiness, and contentment."

I probably should have said, "They faded within the first two years..."

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" I rarely ever text DH and we never sext or send pictures. The last time we did that was like back before ... [snip!] ... I just wish he was more intimate in general.   We do have sex pretty regularly...but it's all pretty plain and boring now.  "</blockquote>




Then do something! If you initiate, chances are, he will follow. He is a man, after all!

DH still gives me the butterflies sometimes, but all marriages go through phases. Sometimes we're comfortable, sometimes we struggle, sometimes we're madly in love and we can't keep our hands off each other. We're meant for each other though, 100%. I'm lucky.

Quoting Safka9973:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" I rarely ever text DH and we never ... [snip!] ... now.  "</blockquote> Then do something! If you initiate, chances are, he will follow. He is a man, after all!"

I don't guess he is a normal man. I usually have to initiate sex and if it wasn't for me doing that then we would have it as often as we do now, which is like once a week maybe. He's been that way ever since I met him though, so I don't know what the deal is.

<blockquote><b>Quoting sassy chef:</b>" I probably should have said, "They faded within the first two years..." "</blockquote>




That makes more sense to me!

DH and I pass little notes too! We don't so this very often though. I like to hang onto everything he gives me, and a computer log can be nicely condensed.

As is, I have a file cabinet full of notes, cards, and letters from him. We even have a journal that we share, but he slowly turned that into questions and concerns about our oldest child. We still share intimate detail in there, but that part that was once a romantic activity has turned into more of a family based journal. With our son having so many problems, family based activities and routines are pretty much centered on him because he needs a lot of help.

We do have a little letter book, though, that I made DH a few years back. We don't focus on the sexual stuff in this, it's really a collection of love letters/notes that we jot down in book form. His range from very deep, drawn out letters to the more playful Terryisms, ex "I love you more than a billion fish" (we are a couple that loves to fish together)

We also read books together. It sounds corny, but we like it. Once the kids go to sleep we'll read a chapter or two and cuddle on the couch. It's nice.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vanilla MILFshake.:</b>" I don't guess he is a normal man. I usually have to initiate sex and if it wasn't for me doing that ... [snip!] ... we do now, which is like once a week maybe. He's been that way ever since I met him though, so I don't know what the deal is. "</blockquote>




Maybe you just need to turn the freak on!
Try something new, experiment!

Quoting Safka9973:" <blockquote><b>Quoting sassy chef:</b>" I probably should have said, "They faded within ... [snip!] ... letters to the more playful Terryisms, ex "I love you more than a billion fish" (we are a couple that loves to fish together)"

DH and i usually text when we need to talk about our DS since he understands us, i also started this about a year ago but i'll write him little notes and stick them in random places i know he'll find them. I think i might get him to try the journal thing though.

<blockquote><b>Quoting sassy chef:</b>" We also read books together. It sounds corny, but we like it. Once the kids go to sleep we'll read a chapter or two and cuddle on the couch. It's nice."</blockquote>



We do this only a few times a year. We both love sci fi and fantasy novels, but typically we are so worn after the evenings routines (4 kids) that we prefer to engage in more mindless activities, or sex, massage, snacks, movies, and gaming together.

For some reason I do not read in the day much, any more, but DH does more than I do.
I'm in a book club, and where it takes me three hours on ave to read 3-400 page novel, DH is a much slower reader. He reads all my book club books, but we don't read those together. I do love falling asleep to him reading to me, though.,.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:</b>" DH and i usually text when we need to talk about our DS since he understands us, i also started this ... [snip!] ... little notes and stick them in random places i know he'll find them. I think i might get him to try the journal thing though."</blockquote>




We loved doing the journal! There is nothing more tantalizing then reading your lover's most private sexy time thoughts.

I think I might start a new one too. Obviously communicating about the kids problems quietly is important, but I didn't want it in that book! Sounds like a good addition to DHs valentines present. Nice leather bound journal.