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Its not that big of a deal but maybe its just me. I'm a military wife so my husband not being able to be around for every little thing doesn't phase me. I gave birth alone before..in a foreign country. You'll be fine.

I am sorry   this situation really sucks and she sounds like a bitch really. I am possibly going to be alone in the L&D when I go into labor this time too. (my baby's father and I arent together and hes not exactly living closeby) and my mom may be the one watching my kids so i will be alone. and my last labor was less than 15 minutes in the hospital (and less than 30 minutes at home after starting to feel the contractions)

Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Its not that big of a deal but maybe its just me. I'm a military wife so my husband not being able to ... [snip!] ... able to be around for every little thing doesn't phase me. I gave birth alone before..in a foreign country. You'll be fine."

It's my first, and he's really all I have. It's something I imagined we'd be doing together. He was there for his first... I'm sorry you had to do that alone. But that's not how it is usually supposed to be.

Quoting lilmzzgreeneyez *NMOA*:" I am sorry   this situation really sucks and she sounds like a bitch really. I am possibly going to ... [snip!] ... last labor was less than 15 minutes in the hospital (and less than 30 minutes at home after starting to feel the contractions)"

I'm sorry to hear that. I'm upset about it, obviously if it happens I'll be too preoccupied with LO to care. At the same time right now. It hurts. I think I'm more so upset that he just goes along with whatever she say's. I told him last night, when she demanded he pay half of a monthly 169 for a class that she signed him up for without even asking my SO, who already pays 400 a mo. for his child's school. I told him that it wasn't fair that they weren't a family anymore, the only thing they do is share a child and as long as you're paying necessary things like school, and child support, and medical bills that's it. He isn't even court ordered for the school. He just pay's it to be nice. That takes a lot out of our monthly income another 80 some dollars a mo. really hits us.

I'm sorry but that's bull if he can't stand up to his baby mama she opened her legs she needs to step up..he should not put u thru this at his time..where is his mom and dad can they watch his son..ur bf is not. In the army r at a job that has him away so he needs to do what he can for u and to be their ..I have kids plus my hubby has kids but the baby mama knows if anything happens if noone can watch her she will be going to one of my family members with my kids ..nd she has no choice but to deal with it.. I'm sorry I know u love his son I have read all ur post..u guys always have him but this is a important time and cuz u have noone but him then he needs to snap cuz that is his baby too.. its not like its forever it just till u have baby..

<blockquote><b>Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:</b>" Its not that big of a deal but maybe its just me. I'm a military wife so my husband not being able to ... [snip!] ... able to be around for every little thing doesn't phase me. I gave birth alone before..in a foreign country. You'll be fine."</blockquote>


I am a Marine wife and it still gets to me when DH misses things. I understand that he can't always be there and that the Marine Corps plans come before mine. But, that's something us military wife's and families have to learn to live with. We're like a different breed of wives, lol. You can't expect a non-military spouse to understand this and be able to cope the way we do. So, I completely understand where you are coming from "Chels :3". Especially since it sounds like his ex is almost wanting this to happen. Wanting you to be alone in labor when you don't have to be.

Quoting Mystique Lee:" I'm sorry but that's bull if he can't stand up to his baby mama she opened her legs she needs to step ... [snip!] ... cuz u have noone but him then he needs to snap cuz that is his baby too.. its not like its forever it just till u have baby.."

His parents past too. We don't have any family I have my sister but like in my last post I mentioned this week she wouldn't count because she's having radiation or taking it. And can't be around either of us. It's like his biggest problem is being called a bad father, I don't understand. He should know he's a good father. SHES the one that broke the family up. SHE'S the one that starts all the drama and tells her son the terrible things that aren't true. I'm so stressed and that's bad for baby but I can't help it. I'm uncomfortable and contracting more and more, and really nervous. Last night I thought it was it, meaning what if tonight is it? Or next week when I'm even further along meaning there's more of a chance, and she does this again!? Now he disappeared with his son, he's been gone for 45 minutes, to pick something up that is down the street... Now I don't even know where he is.

Quoting WrightsWife (18weeks!):" <blockquote><b>Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:</b>" Its not that big of a deal but maybe ... [snip!] ... since it sounds like his ex is almost wanting this to happen. Wanting you to be alone in labor when you don't have to be."

She does. She's upset because her current SO (The guys she cheated on my SO with 3 years ago) Wont give her a kid (Btw because of the way he see's her treat my SO) so when I got pregnant she threw a fit, and now her brother has a girlfriend and she's 4 weeks pregnant. She always tries to find a way to get us apart. Thank you for understanding. If I were in your shoes I would be upset but like you said I'd understand the rules, and culture of that lifestyle. My SO on the other hand has no reason.

Quoting Chels :3:" It's my first, and he's really all I have. It's something I imagined we'd be doing together. He was ... [snip!] ... together. He was there for his first... I'm sorry you had to do that alone. But that's not how it is usually supposed to be. "

You'll live. Seriously. It sucks but is it the end of the world? No. I'm sure he wants to be there but if he can't be, you won't die. The most important issue is that baby gets here safe and healthy. I don't know your SO's ex but if she calls him and needs him to watch THEIR son, so be it. You need to know how to deal with that. Don't expect her to accommodate you all just because you're having a baby.

Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" You'll live. Seriously. It sucks but is it the end of the world? No. I'm sure he wants to be there but ... [snip!] ... so be it. You need to know how to deal with that. Don't expect her to accommodate you all just because you're having a baby."

I'm glad these things don't matter to you. Of course when he needs to be here he needs to be here. Like the times she didn't feel like dealing with him and his 103 fever and dropped on us, or all the other times these things have happened. I'm glad you can handle your SO not being around. I'm sorry as well. But seriously it sucks. I don't have anyone. I'm sorry you're in a situation where you may not have anyone from time to time. Difference is I understand apparently you don't.

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Quoting Chels :3:" I'm glad these things don't matter to you. Of course when he needs to be here he needs to be here. Like ... [snip!] ... in a situation where you may not have anyone from time to time. Difference is I understand apparently you don't. Just  "

No one said it didn't matter to me. But you're whining because this guy has to watch his SON. His SON. Just because you're having a baby, doesn't mean the world should revolve around you dear. Don't bring my one situation up as if I'm jaded. I'm not. I'm just not a big ass baby.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chels :3:</b>" She does. She's upset because her current SO (The guys she cheated on my SO with 3 years ago) Wont give ... [snip!] ... be upset but like you said I'd understand the rules, and culture of that lifestyle. My SO on the other hand has no reason. "</blockquote>



As odd as it may sound... My MIL is a lot like your mans ex, lol. DH changes duty stations in about 2 months. Our plan is for me to also move there. He may not be deployed when I give birth (again, you never know the military's plans), but if I'm at his base, there is way more of a chance of him being there, rather than if I'm in our home state (states away from his new station). But for some odd reason, my MIL is trying everything in her power to keep that from happening. Every time she talks to my DH she is working at him, trying to change his mind (which is not happening). This is not only his first baby, but his first son. So of course we will do what we can to make the possibility of him being there bigger.

Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" No one said it didn't matter to me. But you're whining because this guy has to watch his SON. His SON. ... [snip!] ... world should revolve around you dear. Don't bring my one situation up as if I'm jaded. I'm not. I'm just not a big ass baby."

It's not him watching his son, Of course that matters. Her constantly threatening to take him away. Which she couldn't do anyway, and then not even being able to take him for bed time. Sorry but you do sound jaded. It's important to most women to have the child of the father there when the baby is born. And it's also important to most women to know where the other children will be while the new LO is being born. You do sound jaded and again I'm sorry for you that you're this way. So I guess I seem like a big baby. She tells us she doesn't want any of our plans for him done. She doesn't even want him at the hospital. Excuse me if I don't want to sit around my home in active labor for an hour or more waiting for her to pick him up before we can go. OR having my SO in the waiting room waiting even longer for her to show up is she even does. It is very important to me that he is there. So sure I'm upset about it, don't like it call me a baby which you already got out of the way. And leave the post. Or not really doesn't matter to me. I didn't say anything mean to you, you read my post as if I were calling you jaded, and then called me a big baby. You obviously don't get my point or think it's silly so leave the silly post.

Quoting WrightsWife (18weeks!):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chels :3:</b>" She does. She's upset because her current SO ... [snip!] ... only his first baby, but his first son. So of course we will do what we can to make the possibility of him being there bigger."

Apparently I'm a big baby for being upset. This is SO's first daughter, and my first child. My parents are gone, as well as his, and my sister is for lack of a better term radioactive.(lol). She doesn't want him with her, she doesn't want him at the hospital. We can't drop him off. That'd take too much time. There's not even anyone else to take me to the hospital forgot to mention that part.