Quoting mom2andrew&carter:" there is no easy way to make the transition but she is young enough that she wont even remeber you guys ... [snip!] ... more in the long run if you guys stay together and are very unhappy with each other. making yourself happy with make her happy"
Yea. It's hard though. Today he went off on me telling me I'm "one of those girls" who keep the baby away from their father because I won't let her go to his dad's where she is. His dad is a meth addict and I will NOT allow my daughter in that environment. I had school today from 1-4 and my sister wound up watching her. He had 3 hours to spend time with her and chose not to and then yelled at me for it. He is always more then welcome to see his daughter!! The only circumstance where I would EVER take her away is if he got violent, on drugs, or went to jail. I will not take my daughter to a jail to see her dad. I hate memories of having to see my mom through glass!!! And she's sick now so of course it's MY fault. "I take her out too much and don't pay enough attention to her". Uggh!! When does the hostility end!!! I don't want her to see the anger, and pain between me and her dad. I told him it's best it ends now and she grows up seeing mom and dad happy apart rather then letting it go on and having her grow up seeing mom and dad together but hating each other. i guess the word for what I'm feeling is guilt, and I'm just unsure about our decision. I hate to see them apart, she is such a daddy's brat it's ridiculous!! One day at a time I guess. Hopefully he will be able to accept the fact that he needs to come here to see her, or even meet on neutral ground and spend some time with her until he finds another place. But I just cannot allow my daughter to be in a house where drugs are and have been done constantly!! I know her dad doesn't do them but his dad does.