Quoting Mama MacGyver*:" Thats how I felt about it. In DH's mind it was just like if he wasn't listening or didn't put his toys ... [snip!] ... to DS, maybe that's why I really felt like it needed to be solved in the moment and that's just not where DH's mind was at...."
Yeah, I mean I don't think children should be forced to show affection or emotion if they don't want to. Obviously there was something going on internally with your son on an emotional scale. It wasn't like your husband was telling him to put his toys away and he was ignoring him because he didn't want to put his toys away.