Sooo frustrating.

I hate dealing with my son's dad sometimes. I do my best to be nice, and civil. I even give him things all the time to help him. But when I ask him ONE THING I get attitude from him. & Let me start of by saying he hasn't he paid his child support. The only reason he is still getting visitation is because we haven't gone back to court yet. The thing I have been asking him isn't bad at all. He is just selfish. I ask him if our son can go to his mom's house to open the Christmas presents she got for our son. I am still close with my son's dad's mom and I see no reason why this is an issue, But he does because he has his own personal issues with her (I know what the issues are, and none of it is his mom's fault, it is HIS but he is to selfish to see it) . But I don't see why that should affect our son having his family in his life. Regardless of how he feels about his mom that is still Dylan's grandmother and she has done nothing bad to where I feel she shouldn't be around our son. His mom was the one who paid the ONE child support payment that I actually have gotten. With not paying child support, (oh, and lets not forget to mention he was begging me to come back to him 2 weeks agoo...), and I'm having a random girl message me to tell me he was flirting with her in front of her boyfriend, and then this, I'm so sick of all of his drama. I have been patiently awaiting for this court date. But now I feel like it couldn't come fast enough. I'm tired of him thinking he can talk to me like a dog. & it's not just this that is bugging me. EVERY time I ask him to do the smallest little thing, he won't do it. & I think he does that purpousley to piss me off. I ask him to call me when he's on his way to get our son (so i can get our son ready), he won't let me know till he is outside of my house. It is soo frustrating. I do feel better though that I've typed it all out  

Why wouldn't he get visitation? I would just bring him to see her. It's your sons grandmother she deserves to see him too(unless she's done something wrong).

He is 6 months behind on child support. He has only paid one payment. & That's what I'm going to do. I was trying to be civil with him by talking it out with him but since he got an attitude with me about it, and he also threatened me, I'm just going to do it. She hasn't done anything wrong. My son's dad did. He was arrested (in FRONT of my son), for hitting his brother. He blames his mom, but his mom wasn't even the one who called the police. That's why he doesn't want Dylan over there. It's pretty stupid.

He would still get visitation even though he isn't paying child support.

Not if we go back to court. & he broke the visitation plan. Trust me, I've talked to tooooo many people about this.

My kids' dad doesn't pay child support, broke the visitation plan multiple times, guess what he just got reduced visitation and still gets visitation and he was using my kids to traffic marijuana aroudn the town.

you're in a different state number one. number two, i have a lawyer telling me what to do. & i'm going to listen to his word over anyone else's cause he's helped me before. number three, that isn't why i posted this topic. i already know what i need to do as far as that situation goes.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dylan'smommy011:</b>" you're in a different state number one. number two, i have a lawyer telling me what to do. & i'm ... [snip!] ... me before. number three, that isn't why i posted this topic. i already know what i need to do as far as that situation goes. "</blockquote>



No judge will take visitation away for those reasons. That would be like taking a kid away from a parent because they lost their job and had to go on assistance. Child support has nothing to do with visitation.

Quoting Dylan'smommy011:" you're in a different state number one. number two, i have a lawyer telling me what to do. & i'm ... [snip!] ... me before. number three, that isn't why i posted this topic. i already know what i need to do as far as that situation goes. "

And you know what. My lawyer told me therei s no way in hell he would get anything more than supervised visits. My lawyer told me I would be gaurenteed Child support or they would put him in jail for contempt of court. Guess what. I got told if I with held visitation even though he is homeless and has put his kids in danger before that I would go to jail. The judge wouldn't even hear the case but as soon as the police report came in he would issue a warrant.

I know that. That isn't what my plan is. That's why I have not tried to take visitation away so far. & i'm not going to explain any of my plans on here. That much is only between my lawyer & I. Like I said, that is NOT the reason I posted this topic. There are personal issues that I haven't bothered to mention, and I'm not going too, because i'm not going to take it that far.

Quoting Dylan'smommy011:" I know that. That isn't what my plan is. That's why I have not tried to take visitation away so far. ... [snip!] ... are personal issues that I haven't bothered to mention, and I'm not going too, because i'm not going to take it that far. "

No judge will take away his rights. I understand that you frustrated with him. I do. But seriously... You are thinking way to into this. Dont take away your sons grandmothers visits away. Im surprised your lawyer hasnt told you that CS and custody are two separate things.

Did I ever once say that I was planning on taking away visitation? I'm not. He only has it temporarily right now until we go back to court and settle everything. There isn't even a court order right now for visitation. UNTIL we go back to court. Because he is no longer allowed where his visitation was taking place.

Quoting Dylan'smommy011:" Did I ever once say that I was planning on taking away visitation? I'm not. He only has it temporarily ... [snip!] ... right now for visitation. UNTIL we go back to court. Because he is no longer allowed where his visitation was taking place. "

There is no need to be a bitch about it. Do you have a court order for visitation? We are not talking about CS... just vistiation.

I wasn't even thinking into anything about taking visitation away. I just think it is wrong for him to treat me the way he does when he doesn't help support our son. I know that child support and visitation are two different things. I've been to court, i've been through the whole process. 4 times. I just want this smurf to be settled. & I'm not asking for advice about what I should do about that, because like I said we have a court date coming up, and everything is going to be settled then.

I'm being a bitch about it because i posted this whole thing in order to vent about it, not get advice about smurf I already know. Like I said, I have been through the process. Everything is just thrown up in the air right now until we go back to court. The ONLY point I was trying to make by posting this was that he has been an smurf to me when I have done NOTHING but be nice to him and give him smurf that he needs for our son & that i'm tired of being treated like a dog by him.
But apparently no matter what I do he is right, and I am wrong.