it's over... *vent*

After almost 2 years and a son... it's over. And all because he wanted to claim our son on his taxes. My ex was on house arrest since is was about 32 weeks until our son was almost 4 months. He hasn't put out nearly the amount of money for his care that he claims to the world that he has. My family is the one that gave me clothes to wear when I was pregnant. My family was there when i went into premature labor. My family was there when I was having so much trouble the last couple of weeks. My mom was the one who stayed with me at the hospital after my emergency c-section. And my family has put a roof over our heads, made sure we had food, and all the other necessities that he couldn't provide and now he wants to claim him to pay off his $7,000 worth of fines and find a place to live. I don't think so... my family has paid my bills and helped with my son and I think they deserve to claim him to help them catch up on some bills and much needed house/car repairs. Am I wrong for wanting to help my family out or am I just crazy?!?

ugh...I understand his point. He wants to get out of debt and since it is his kid he should be able to claim him. We always use our taxes to pay debt too...let him claim him and if you feel like you owe your family $ give them some.

ur doing the right thing..

I would not allow my family to claim my child. Why don't you and then give them half your return? And I am sure there is more, but ending it because of the reason you said (who wants to claim your DS on their taxes) seems like a stupid reason.

Do you live with your family? I mean, yes I definitely understand wanting to let them claim him over a person who doesn't help financially, but aren't there rules about the child needing to live with the person who claims them for like 6 months or something? Idk I just had my child in April, so this is the first year we will be claiming a dependent.

<blockquote><b>Quoting BareFootBabyMaker:</b>" ugh...I understand his point. He wants to get out of debt and since it is his kid he should be able to ... [snip!] ... him. We always use our taxes to pay debt too...let him claim him and if you feel like you owe your family $ give them some."</blockquote>




Uh no. Just because he is his child doesn't mean he has the right to claim him. The person who's been providing for his needs does, so in this case her parents.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" I would not allow my family to claim my child. Why don't you and then give them half your return? And ... [snip!] ... is more, but ending it because of the reason you said (who wants to claim your DS on their taxes) seems like a stupid reason."</blockquote>




I might be assuming her but the op probably didn't have any income as she stated her parents were providing for both her needs and her child's.

Your family should be the ones to claim the baby. If he wants to pay his smurf off tell him to start sending money to the state and help provide for the child he helped create. Maybe next year after actually taking care of the baby, he can claim him/her but if your family is the one providing everything then it's only right.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" I would not allow my family to claim my child. ... [snip!] ... her but the op probably didn't have any income as she stated her parents were providing for both her needs and her child's."</blockquote>

I kinda figured that, but I thought I would ask anyways. LOL

Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" I would not allow my family to claim my child. ... [snip!] ... her but the op probably didn't have any income as she stated her parents were providing for both her needs and her child's."

You have to have income to benefit from claiming dependents...nevermind I re-read it

No you're not wrong.
I wouldn't let him claim him either.
Why should he since he hasn't done smurf?
But why don't you file your own return and claim him yourself?
Then you'd have money for your son and to help your family.
If you can't file your own then yes let your family claim him, since that's who you live with and who supports you.

$7,000 he owes in fines isn't comparable to debt...don't get me wrong, he owes money, so yes it's technically debt. But if I were in your shoes, I'd be damned if I let someone (even BD) use money he's only able to get due to our child, on fines...he got himself into that mess and needs to handle it without using money that could be used to pay back people who helped you guys & your child financially. Maybe that's just me, but I think you're on the right track with wanting to help your family out in return after all they've helped you with.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 36-24-36OnlyIfshes5-3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting BareFootBabyMaker:</b>" ugh...I understand his point. He wants ... [snip!] ... doesn't mean he has the right to claim him. The person who's been providing for his needs does, so in this case her parents."</blockquote>




Exactly.
Screw his debt.
He needs to be a man and take care of his child.

Quoting BareFootBabyMaker:" You have to have income to benefit from claiming dependents...nevermind I re-read it"

Her parents have income.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ✰ Mrs. B ✰:</b>" $7,000 he owes in fines isn't comparable to debt...don't get me wrong, he owes money, so yes it's technically ... [snip!] ... me, but I think you're on the right track with wanting to help your family out in return after all they've helped you with."</blockquote>




Couldn't have said it better.