Quoting Red Bottom:" If parents get punished, kids won't be deterred for a second. The abuser should be held 100% accountable."
If the parents took responsibility then the kids may well not be bullying in the first place. Kids have to feel bad to be able to bully others, most kids do not have disorders that cause it, they have unmet needs and are acting out and being little dicks because they don't know how to behave properly. Punishing them may be a deterrent for others, but one that could we have gotten them in the predicament in the first place. Do as i DO, not as i say. Teach kids to be self aware, to be thoughtful, kind, respectful, compassionate, helpful, understanding, truthful, honest etc teach them by raising them that way. Raise them with control and doing negative things to them and what do you expect. Kids everyday are being trained to be little bullies, what is it - about 60% of parents hit their kids for obedience training and use power to control them. It's all they know, conditional treatment. 1) they feel like smurf and take it out on others and 2) they're being taught how to control those more vulnerable. Parents need to stop thinking about gaining compliance at home and start thinking about the future more when they interact with their kids and the lessons they impart on them. Of course there will be times when kids mess up and treat others wrong, but bullying is repetitive behaviour and there are people around to witness and address it. Imo 'kids will be kids' does not extend to bullying, that is chronic bad behaviour that parents need to address.