sick of the attitude. *vent*

My niece is pissing me off. She's living with us until March so I stay home with her and my daughter, both 4, and the attitude on this child is unreal. Its only 10 am and since we got up at 7 she's been bugging me for cookies or pudding or chips. She knows that they don't get any treats until after lunch and when I say no she freaks right out saying "you're not the boss. I'm gunna get a chair and get it myself" I tell her no again and she walks right up to me and screams full force right in my face. I send her on a time out and she ssits there and screams the whole time. Already today she's overflowed the bathroom sink, painted the walls with iced tea, and punched my daughter thinking it was all downright hilarious. And don't even gget me started on cleanup. Every day the two of them trash the house and when iit comes cleanup time she refuses. She says its too big of a mess or it'll take too long or she's too tired, leaving my daughter to clean it all up. I'm not saying its just her and my daughter is a little angel, she has her moments too, but attitude on my niece is unbelievable. All day long she's instigating fights, arguing with anybody, doesn't listen to anything I say, and acts so incredibly bratty all accompanied by a giant heap of attitude and its really getting on my last nerve.

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Yikes. Is there a reason she's staying with you? Like a reason that could be making her distraught emotionally?

You need to discipline her more. Hitting and screaming in your face is completely unacceptable! Do not remove her from time out until she calms herself and apologizes for her behavior. Don't make your daughter clean everything up, let her do half and leave the rest there until your niece cleans it up and if she refuses don't let her play with anything until she does.

I would have her sit on her bed with nothing to do until she decides to behave properly (each time she acts out). I wouldn't tolerate that influence on my child.

Well make sure you don't just give in to shut her up on any of it. Sounds to me like she's adjusting to a whole new set of rules and seeing exactly what she can get away with by being as bratty as possible. Do her parents give in when she acts that way?

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" You need to discipline her more. Hitting and screaming in your face is completely unacceptable! Do not ... [snip!] ... half and leave the rest there until your niece cleans it up and if she refuses don't let her play with anything until she does."

exactly....she needs to be accountable for her actions and even if its because of other issues that is making her act like this the behavior is not ok and when she calms down I would try and talk with her and see whats going on with her side of things....I wouldnt want my own child to think it was ever ok for that to happen and since your watching her and have a known method of discipline that you can use time outs and chill out times etc. sucks being strict and up her butt like that but till she can get thru this phase and work out whats going on or just learn your rules she needs to know that your gonna be her stable adult in her life and you can be fun with her and treat her just like your own child but she needs to learn how to express things differently if she is mad she needs to state that but not scream it and who is she really mad at etc. but in a childs understanding

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" You need to discipline her more. Hitting and screaming in your face is completely unacceptable! Do not ... [snip!] ... half and leave the rest there until your niece cleans it up and if she refuses don't let her play with anything until she does."

 

Aaaannd she just busted my daughters lip open. Ughhhh!!!! She's with us because both her parents (they're not together) are working on the other side of the country. I've tried EVERYTHING. I don't want her to spend the whole day on time out. Even tried putting her down for a nap. Every time she comes off a time out she's fine until 20 minutes later when something doesn't go her way. Her mothers supposed to be here to pick her up tomorrow as she's coming home for a break but god knows that'll make it worse. All her mother does is party and last time she was here for 2 weeks and only took her daughter for 2 days.

Quoting PHEONYX:" Aaaannd she just busted my daughters lip open. Ughhhh!!!! She's with us because both her parents (they're ... [snip!] ... make it worse. All her mother does is party and last time she was here for 2 weeks and only took her daughter for 2 days."

sounds like you get the job of being the real parent but after a few days of her constantly hitting that brick wall with you it will pay off sounds like shes not too happy about her mom not being the stable parent she is supposed to be and is pissed she is with you instead....show her love and stability and that you wont take that kind of disrespect you have never done it to her etc.

poor kid   just be consistent, it sounds like she really needs the comfort of routine and discipline. When she is screaming and hitting you just remember that she's obviously feeling very upset and it sounds like she really doesn't know any other way to express herself. Maybe you can teach her what to do when she is upset.. after the discipline of course. Give her words to use and a place she get let loose (like on a bed/pillow) Stick to it and make her apologize, ask her how she feels or why she feels upset, acknowledge her feelings... that kind of thing. Kids need to feel important and with her parents dropping her on you she probably feels abandoned.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama❍Moon:</b>" poor kid   just be consistent, it sounds like she really needs the comfort of routine and discipline. ... [snip!] ... that kind of thing. Kids need to feel important and with her parents dropping her on you she probably feels abandoned. "</blockquote>




Its not me that she hits. Its my daughter. They don't hit each other that aoften but when they do get in a brawl its usually her that starts it. I've tried talking to her about it but everytime I ask her what's wrong she breaks ddown bawling and screaming that she misses her mother.   anytime she cries like she gets hurt or scared she screams for mommy and she misses her mother. I feel bad cuz if I told her mother that shed just laugh and be llike aww that's cute. :/

Quoting PHEONYX:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama❍Moon:</b>" poor kid   just be consistent, it sounds ... [snip!] ... mommy and she misses her mother. I feel bad cuz if I told her mother that shed just laugh and be llike aww that's cute. :/"

aww thats too bad (about mom not caring)   what are the kids usually fighting about? Its common for siblings to argue and fight, mine do.. doesn't matter who started it though both get disciplined. Just teach them how to work it out on their own without hitting, even if it means coming to you to mediate until they get the hang of it.