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My DH wasn't very interested in my pregnancy, but he loves DD more than anything  

Some men don't click with idea of a baby until they are born. Women couldn't forget if they wanted, we feel them kicking, rolling around, and are constantly reminded everytime we get dressed, walk past a mirror, or anywhere we see or touch our big swollen bellies.

My DH was the same. He would feel my belly but only if I told him to. I don't think it hits men until after they are born. We get to carry them, feel them move. They can't realty take part till after they are born.

He's been through it before, so it's not new anymore. I'd ask him how he's feeling, maybe he's scared how it's going to be with two kids.

Quoting ♥Daenerys:" My SO does not seem at all interested in our little boy, who is due in just 9 weeks. It took him a while ... [snip!] ... he won't change.   I want him to love this baby as much as our first. Has anyone else been through this/had this same fear?"

I was that way with our second pregnancy . Our first pregnancy we had to try so hard for. It was twin girls. I really didn't want anymore kids. Obviously I love my son and I did bond with him right away. It was a "suprise" pregnancy (oddly considering how hard we had to try for the girls) and I wasn't in the mind set for more. It just wasn't as new and exciting as it was with the girls. It was more going thru the motions. Don't stress. He will love this baby as much as the first. Matter of fact, my little fella is sleeping in my bed with me right now. He is my pal pal. He is now a bundle of 2yr old energy and my girls are my 4yr old divas. It all works out.

Quoting Mama Rice:" Some men don't click with idea of a baby until they are born. Women couldn't forget if they wanted, we ... [snip!] ... and are constantly reminded everytime we get dressed, walk past a mirror, or anywhere we see or touch our big swollen bellies."

But what confuses me is how much he was involved with my last pregnancy (after he got over the shock and everything). We went baby shopping, he would look at maternity stuff with me, we talked about names all the time, etc.

There has been none of that so far this pregnancy.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Daenerys:</b>" But what confuses me is how much he was involved with my last pregnancy (after he got over the shock ... [snip!] ... look at maternity stuff with me, we talked about names all the time, etc. There has been none of that so far this pregnancy."</blockquote>

I was scared smurfless with the pregnancy with my DS. 2 kids is a very daunting thought. I love my DS with all my heart but there were moments during my pregnancy I didn't want to think about it and seemed detached.

Quoting Kylees Mama:" He's been through it before, so it's not new anymore. I'd ask him how he's feeling, maybe he's scared how it's going to be with two kids."

I guess that makes sense, I haven't really thought about it that way. He started getting excited, kind of, but then we found out it was a boy. (He wanted another girl, which he literally did not tell me until like an hour before the ultrasound, not like I can pick lol but still). And ever since that ultrasound, it just seems like he's more bummed than anything. And he keeps making comments about how he'll have his 'daddy's girl' and I'll get my 'momma's boy' when I say 'well now you'll have a boy to do 'guy' stuff with' - or anything of that sort.

He even said that maybe the night I have to stay in the hospital, he can just go home with LO, and come back the next day. Which upset me, like he doesn't even want to be there the first day/night of his life?

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Daenerys:</b>" I guess that makes sense, I haven't really thought about it that way. He started getting excited, kind ... [snip!] ... with LO, and come back the next day. Which upset me, like he doesn't even want to be there the first day/night of his life?"</blockquote>

Fathers can have gender disappointment too. It should pass when your son is born.

My Husband was the same but the second my son got here. The love he has for that little boy is overwhelming.

Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ♥Daenerys:</b>" I guess that makes sense, I haven't really ... [snip!] ... day/night of his life?"</blockquote> Fathers can have gender disappointment too. It should pass when your son is born."

Oh I know, I went through it. But only for a few weeks. I didn't expect him to still be bummed it's a boy 3 months later...

my husband doesnt seem to care about our kids until they're about 18 months old. that's when he starts to do stuff with them. until then I do everything.

Men sometimes go into a depression type of phase. I think it's a hormonal type thing for some of them.