"He definitely wants a relationship someday"

I need advice please.

SO and I had an issue in December, and we can't speak until we have court February 27th.
SO's dad has been doing communication so he can still see Ainsley.
I had asked his Dad to find out if he wanted to work on our relationship, or if it was over. His exact text was:
"Peter said he definitely wants a relationship in the future. Before you can both be together again there are a lot of things to resolve and changes that need to take place. Only time, counseling, and accountability will determine where it goes from there"

To you does that sounds like he considers us not together now?
I don't want to misinterpret that, and have him think we're still together, and I start seeing someone, and he thinks it's cheating.

I really need advice because I'm confused.

Sounds like he considers you guys not together.

I think it sounds like he considers you guys not together right now, but I would ask for a much clearer answer than that.

It's hard to answer with out all the info, but to me, it sounds like you probably shouldn't date anyone else (unless you like, find the love of your life or something, lol) until you can talk again at the end of February. Unless YOU are definitely over him and do not want to work on your relationship. WHich, if that's the case, you need to let him know that you are not interested in working on your relationship. Do you know what you want?

Quoting Colt's mommy:" It's hard to answer with out all the info, but to me, it sounds like you probably shouldn't date anyone ... [snip!] ... the case, you need to let him know that you are not interested in working on your relationship. Do you know what you want?"

I think I want to work things out. We've been together for 5 years, and I love him, but we've had so many issues.
I've been hanging out with my old boss' son though, just as friends, but we literally talked all day yesterday, and he's coming over tonight. There's been some flirting, I just don't want to do something I'm going to feel guilty about later.

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" I think I want to work things out. We've been together for 5 years, and I love him, but we've had so ... [snip!] ... he's coming over tonight. There's been some flirting, I just don't want to do something I'm going to feel guilty about later. "

That's tough  

Sounds like e doesn't consider you guys together? Yet, how will you feel if he starts dating someone else?

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" I think I want to work things out. We've been together for 5 years, and I love him, but we've had so ... [snip!] ... he's coming over tonight. There's been some flirting, I just don't want to do something I'm going to feel guilty about later. "

If you are serious about working on your relationship with him in the future, then it's probably best to not start a relationship with someone else. Don't you think that it would cause drama, even if he does consider you not together right now (and you were to get back together after February)?

Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" Sounds like e doesn't consider you guys together? Yet, how will you feel if he starts dating someone else?"

I'd feel pretty smurffy.

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" I just don't want to do something I'm going to feel guilty about later. "

Then don't.
You can always sleep with a new guy. You can never unsleep with one.

Quoting Colt's mommy:" If you are serious about working on your relationship with him in the future, then it's probably best ... [snip!] ... it would cause drama, even if he does consider you not together right now (and you were to get back together after February)?"

I honestly don't know. I mean it's moving pretty quickly with this new guy. I messaged him the other night and he came over and hung out and watched tv, and we were talking all day yesterday even though he left at 7am. He texted me when he woke up this morning, and he'll be coming by as soon as he gets out of work.

Quoting Stfu Shirley:" Then don't. You can always sleep with a new guy. You can never unsleep with one."

I didn't plan on sleeping with him

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" I didn't plan on sleeping with him"

Well I mean whatever you're afraid of regretting. Whatever that means to you.

if you wouldn't want him starting a new relationship i wouldn't do anything with this new guy. if you are over it... move on with this new guy. just think how you would feel though. If your digging this new guy and you think it could go somewhere good, then i would go for it to be honest.

just think everything through.

Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" I honestly don't know. I mean it's moving pretty quickly with this new guy. I messaged him the other ... [snip!] ... even though he left at 7am. He texted me when he woke up this morning, and he'll be coming by as soon as he gets out of work. "

When you have a conection with someone, it always seems to move fast like that (especially if it's a rebound). Like you're already so comfortable with them, you know? I'm not sure how I would handle it, but if you do start dating him, be prepared for some drama when your so/ex so finds out. Also, if you've been with him for several years, it may be good for you to just be on your own for a bit and not jump in to another relationship.