Help a Minuteman *shame*

i am super fast to climax.
it is so so so embarrassing.
it seems no matter what i do, that i ejaculate after 1-2 minutes of intercourse.
masturbation before hand doesn't help.

i just feel so bad for my wife. she deserves more.

i think our sex life is ok, lots of oral, and she has orgasms. she initiates sex which is a great sign.

but if feel like i am short changing her when it comes to intercourse with my fast performance.

how can i last longer?
how can i feel better about myself?
how can i ensure that my wife is ok with the situation?

thank you.

Quoting Salad Fingers:" Give her more foreplay if you can't last longer than that. Most women don't get off from the actual penetration ... [snip!] ... Try desensitization oil inside of a thicker condom. It might add on a couple minutes. If not, buy a dildo to use on her."

Quoting *PeanutButter*:" My husband never lasts more than 10 minutes Usually it's around 2-5,it doesn't really bother me I'd rather ... [snip!] ... about to climax And if you have a sex shop close to you they have different pills and liquid shots you can take and they work"

Quoting bobdc2009:" Thanks, Saladfingers. I was nervous about those condoms that they might desensitize her also. have you ... [snip!] ... also. have you ever used one? if yes, did it affect you? ugh, so insecure about this. a dildo is a great idea also. thank you."

Quoting Salad Fingers:" Also, I don't think you should be ashamed about it. I think it's an issue that a lot of men have but ... [snip!] ... matter. I wouldn't load yourself up with chemicals and hormones trying to last longer if your wife is orgasming regularly."

Quoting Salad Fingers:" There's a condom made by durex that is supposed to 'speed her up' and 'slow him down'. It's ribbed ... [snip!] ... activated desensitization oil on the inside. The oil won't come in contact with her so you don't have to worry about that. "

Quoting bobdc2009:" thanks, again, salad fingers! i am so ashamed, but you are right. i need to let it go. it is likely ... [snip!] ... a lot of men are in my (speed) boat?   yes, you are right about the chemicals! i wish it wasn't so taboo and embarrassing!"

Quoting bobdc2009:" thanks, again, salad fingers! i am so ashamed, but you are right. i need to let it go. it is likely ... [snip!] ... a lot of men are in my (speed) boat?   yes, you are right about the chemicals! i wish it wasn't so taboo and embarrassing!"

Quoting bobdc2009:" sounds engineered just for me LOL! i'll try it. i might try it by myself first though LOL! ribbed LOL! ... [snip!] ... though LOL! ribbed LOL! does that even matter! thanks, it's nice to talk about this and laugh. usually i'm so tense about it."

Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:" My SO use to be quick when he was younger, since he turned 30 for some reason now he last longer....longer ... [snip!] ... me, by then Im done too lol. But some visuals like doggy style get him off too quickly so he tends to steer away from that "