Quoting bobdc2009:" thank you. the answers here are great. you are right about a question board, there people just insult ... [snip!] ... strong and confident. i want to be open, but it is scary a little bit. and such an embarrassing topic. but you are 100% right!"
That's sweet, but she's your wife. She's not going to be judging your masculinity and if she's anything like me, she will probably really
appreciate seeing you be open with your guys' sexuality. I can't stress this enough. It's just a matter of swallowing your pride and addressing what you think is an issue. Like you said before, it's sad that it is an embarrassing and taboo topic, so break those stereotypes. Tell her about the things you learned about on this site and show her this thread and ask her if she'd be interested in any of those things.