i hate him so much

i dont know if someone can hate their kids father as much as i do right now. he is a complete smurfing smurf. He has not seen his kids in a month has not bought diapers or anything in over a month. I lost my wic cause of my own stupidty so now on top of buying all the diapers and wipes for 2 kids im buying all the formula and baby food. i know i dont have the right to complain cause their my kids and i would never make them go without anything. I am just pissed off cause i didnt make these kids on my own so i shouldnt have to support them on my own. I went down to child support today and they told me there gonna send a letter in the mail for me to come back in about a week but im probably not even gonna get child support cause hes a taxi driver and he doesnt make a regular paycheck. i am just so tired of it i grew up without a father and i didnt want my kids to have to go through the same thing. at least my boys know they will always have me im just hoping its enough

My DD1's biological father went 3 years without seeing her, not even a call to see if she was alive.. In the past 4 years he has made exactly 8 sorry child support payments.
 
I don't understand how anybody can abandon their own children like that.

That's too bad you guys have to go through that. Maybe now that CS is "offical"... he'll man up and bring in a regular paycheck..

I know it sucks. I'm in the same situation. I think you're directing all your energy on him, by being angry and pissed off, and he's not worth it at all.

There's just some things that won't change and that we have to deal with so try to direct your energy into something positive for you. Spend time with your child, do something fun together, or do something you've wanted to for a long time, just anything to get your mind off of him. Good luck with everything, I know it's hard.

Quoting .Solange.:" I know it sucks. I'm in the same situation. I think you're directing all your energy on him, by being ... [snip!] ... you've wanted to for a long time, just anything to get your mind off of him. Good luck with everything, I know it's hard."

That is true.

MY BD hasn't seen DD ever in her almost 4 years of life. He told me he didn't care if the "brat" lives or dies.

Quoting Minion:" MY BD hasn't seen DD ever in her almost 4 years of life. He told me he didn't care if the "brat" lives or dies."

Oh. my. god.
My blood is boiling just reading that. His smurfing loss

<blockquote><b>Quoting .Solange.:</b>" Oh. my. god. My blood is boiling just reading that. His smurfing loss"</blockquote>




Yep.   he's missing out on the sweetest little girl ever.

Quoting Minion:" MY BD hasn't seen DD ever in her almost 4 years of life. He told me he didn't care if the "brat" lives or dies."

thats his loss than and one day he will realize on what he lost out. I just hate him being in and out of their lives its not fair to them. we got into a huge fight and i told him he either needs to stay in their lives constantly and help me out with them our take himself out of their lives completely. my son is almost 2 and hes gonna start realizing things and i dont want him to feel like hes not worth his fathers time

<blockquote><b>Quoting mom2andrew&carter:</b>" thats his loss than and one day he will realize on what he lost out. I just hate him being in and out ... [snip!] ... my son is almost 2 and hes gonna start realizing things and i dont want him to feel like hes not worth his fathers time"</blockquote>



I understand that!

I came to realize I'm actually blessed DD's father isn't around at all.

I would LOVE to be in your situation. You know how nice it is not having to share you babies. Not having to argue over them. Knowing that they are safe with you? Look at the positive.

Quoting *You Are My Sunshine*:" I would LOVE to be in your situation. You know how nice it is not having to share you babies. Not having to argue over them. Knowing that they are safe with you? Look at the positive. "

yea i understand where your coming from but i also dont look how much hes hurting my almost 2 year old by coming by once a month or so just to see them for a few hours than not see them again. my 4 month old is not even gonna know who the hell he is