what to do about hubby not helping out as much

We both work full time jobs. Our daughter goes to a sitter 2 days a week. He drops her off and I pick her up.
I am starting to get frustrated! I feel as though I am the only one doing things around the home! I make our lunches, dinner. I clean, I do laundry, and I pay our bills so he can save for our new home ( my idea, i'm a bad saver). I wake up at night to take care of her too!
I'm starting to get mad. When he is off he just sits on the couch or goes out saying he needs a day off! What about me! I need a day off too!!!!
anyone have advise on what i can do to fix this.
When I do bring it up he gets VErY defensive saying he helps out. But he dosnt and it dosnt change anything besides makes us angry at each other

Quoting Melissa Mackenzies mommy:" We both work full time jobs. Our daughter goes to a sitter 2 days a week. He drops her off and I pick ... [snip!] ... up he gets VErY defensive saying he helps out. But he dosnt and it dosnt change anything besides makes us angry at each other"

Punch him in the throat? No, I'm kidding. But have you tried talking to him? You'd be surprised at how far a conversation can go. If I'm getting frustrated, I'll tell my husband then ask him to do the simple things (help with the older girls, do the dishes, etc)

Why dont u designate certain tasks? You do some things and he does the rest? And also designate a certain day/time that you each get a break.

Before we move din together I told him multiple times that due to some disabilities, I am not suppose to clean, period. He said it was fine he would do it all.
Yeh he didnt. Our place was trashed and I wanted to murder him. But I finally figured out if I go in there, sigh heavily and say "this kitchen is too messy to make dinner" and walk out, that smurf will be clean in 20 minutes LOL
He has decided he wants to do 30 minutes of cleaning a day. He chose the kitchen, asked the teen to do the livingroom and asked if I could do laundry since I do that anyways. It's only been a few days but there has been a huge improvement already.

When designate chores he still doesn't do them says he'll get to them later. But when I'm tripping on toys or need clothes to be but in the washing i can't wait for him forever and usually end up doing it myself. I know I shouldn't but I cant wait forever.
And I do try nicely, even jokingly talking to him about it. He always gets upset and we end up in a augment
most days I just keep my mouth shut and do it all so we don't argue

Do we share a husband? That whole situation sounds exactly like mine. When u figure it out let me know.

You both need to sit down and make a list of chores together. Then let him pick the ones he wants to do. Then take the handwritten chore list, type it up on the computer and hang it on the fridge. Make sure the font is nice and big to remind him every time he opens up the fridge.

Its important that you make the list together. Tell him you want to make your home more efficient. Dont throw it in his face that he doesnt help. You want to make sure you keep this as a team effort

I'm at the point where I never rest

<blockquote><b>Quoting Melissa Mackenzies mommy:</b>" When designate chores he still doesn't do them says he'll get to them later. But when I'm tripping ... [snip!] ... about it. He always gets upset and we end up in a augment most days I just keep my mouth shut and do it all so we don't argue"</blockquote>



Welllllll im a bitch so... if i was in ur situation and wed already discussed who was responsible for what and he STILL doesnt do em... thats when id only clean up my stuff. My clothes would be clean and put away while his are dirty and piled up in a corner or something. When i cook, ill cook enough for myself, wash the dishes, and tell him when hes hungry the foods in the kitchen waiting for him to cook it. Lol..

Yeh smurf that if he can't be an adult about it, stop bothering to be nice. Say "LOOK, I have done this, this this and this today, I NEED YOU to do THIS now PLEASE" and if he doesnt then tell him he needs to hire a cleaning company cause you're done.